SHOOT ME NOW!!!!!!! Ugh .....

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SHOOT ME NOW!!!!!!! Ugh .....
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:53am

For any of you awaiting my court update on the X's continued contempt of not paying CS & worse, emotionally abusing our 6 yr old dd ... he continued to totally blow off the judges orders.

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:28am

Can I just say..... that SUCKS!


I'm so sorry.... but... didn't your attorney try to call you and see if you were just a minute or two away?????


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:09am

HUGSSSSSSS!

Unbelievable ... all we want to do is parent in peace and yet we have to deal with courts and bums and ...

I am so so sorry.

Hope Feb. 1 does you better service!

M

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 12:01pm
I was really really looking forward to some good news from you! I am so sorry - that really does SUCK! I agree that he likely will continue to avoid his responsibilities even though he has an extension of time. I know you will be counting the seconds until Feb 1st arrives. Best of luck to you - we are all in your corner.
Rosecolouredspecs
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 12:24pm

I believe in Karma and I think in the end things will work out for you. You have taken the higher road. It's good that in other aspects you're going on with your life.

I'm in a very tough situation too and my divorce should (I say should because we were supposed to have the final court hearing back in Sept and it got bumped for an older divorce case) be finalized in 3/13. I've even tried to settle out of the court and he refuses to respond to my offer. I can see from your case that even though the divorce is final, the nightmare continues, especially when they show little regard to the children. On the positive side, think of how much better your future will be without him and that you won't be growing old with him.

Hang in there...YOU ARE NOT ALONE in your frustrations. There not even enough words to describe the frustration I feel.

Hugs,
Belinda

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:10pm

Oh Rebecca, that sucks... but... you know, if your xh hasn't complied yet, I don't hold much hope for him, oh growing a brain in the next week and a half or so...

Hope you're feeling a bit better tonight... your xh will get whats coming...

*hugs*

Julie

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:33pm

OK, I'm going to play devil's advocate here. I'm sorry things got delayed (again) in court. But you say it gives him an extra 10 days to comply. I used to get ticked when my ex got some leeway--but then I remembered *why* I took him to court in the first place--to get my child support. isn't it good if he complies and sees the counselor within the next 10 days? Wouldn't that benefit your daughter?

Dont take your eyes off the true reason you brought this to court--to get him help so he will quit badmouthing to your daughter. If counseling will help him do this, we should all hope he goes to therapy within the next 10 days-and complies with the treatment plan.

My friends/family would get ticked when the judge gave PS more time to pay me back support. Everyone was like "He should've been put in jail". I said "The reason I took him to court was to get support. Jail's not going to do that. If an extra 2 weeks gives me my support, then I'm getting what I wanted and what I brought this all into court for".

Focus on the true reasons now. It's hard to keep the focus, but it's a must!!

Hugs

Deb

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:11pm

Deb, yes, I totally agree with you. I would give up ALL CS & atty fees if he could get well & treat our daughter the right way.

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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:06am
Thanks everyone ... I am feeling less horrible about screwing it up right now. I am a big beleiver in fate & what will be, will be. I cant help but think there was a reason ... Will certainly let you know what happens on or b4 Feb 1st. R~

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