Short fuse for STBX
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| Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:58pm |
STBX gets dd M & TH and so far he hasn't come for about 1/2 the time. He is self employed so he says and is always telling me that he has to work. But he is over 1200 in arrearages. However this is the same husband that fathered another child and denied it to me the whole time while at one point our daughter was in the same bed.
So on Monday he was 1/2hr late picking her up from daycare because he had to work late.
Then he proceeds to tell me that he can't pick her up Thursday because he has to work late. So I of course say ok i will take another day with her and make arrangements and BAM he calls right now ans says I am coming to get her but you can have her fri and sat becuse i have darts all weekend and I didn't realize it.
I said well whats more important darts or a weekend with yoru daughter.
I said I better not ever find out that you are ditching our daughter for your other kid.
He moved 1hr away from our daughter so he could make more money and he is cussing at me saying that he "has to pay me all this money or you will throw me in jail". YOu know what - I will.
Becuase when we went to Friend of the court he was crying saying "I will do whatever it takes and pay whatever for my daughter I just want to see her." WEll now he has her and he rather play darts when he says he has no money.
Ok whatever.
Someone give me tips of when he is talking to me how I can be calm and not rip him a new one everytime.
Please help me.

Oh sweetie!!! These guys come a dime a dozen...they only cry to the courts because they are professional con-men that think they can get away with murder! They think that they can confuse the courts just like they did us, and they can't...most courts are trained to see between the lines eventually!!!
DOCUMENT everything!!!!!!! No one is THAT GOOD, and the courts will see right through his smoke and screen demeanor!!!!!
Have confidence in yourself...you are doing everything right!!! HUGS Sweetie!
whoa honey! you need to remember what's important here - not you, not your ex
I would say...... no, you're not paying ME the money; it's for your daughter... and it will not be me, but the COURTS that will throw you in jail if you don't pay child support; it's a court ordered agreement that is based on a state mandate.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~