should I pay the bills? or run
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should I pay the bills? or run
| Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:51pm |
My husband has been stashing money for years, dshonest and disrecptful, emotionally and verbally abusive and generally just a bad man. I have finally accepted this after years of trying to justify his behavior as an "isolated incidence" but now I can't, it's just too many times it has become an obvious "repeated pattern". He always has a reason that our savings account has been emptied, or the condoms in his brief case with the numbers of prostitutes "where for me", or the unknown credit cards, or the 97K more on his W4 at the end of the year,etc.
Well we separated, I had a TRO, he was out of the house, he gave my boys and I nothing to live on for months, I finally got a court order and everything in my favor. Then like an idiot I let him back - my 7 year old son was suicidal (writing about killing himself at school) over the separation and my 6 year old was also having problems too. I let him move back, and 2 days before christmas he emptied our joint account and left me with 12 dollars. (He said he did it before I could do it) He put it back as soon as he realized I knew, I think becuase I did not react, I just called my attorney. His wages are being garnished on the 15th. If I pay no bills I could probably get a place with my kids,but then I have no back up if he quits his job or gets fired. ( He told me this was going to happen becuase he recently got a DUI and now I garnished his wages). I am starting a job (I have been a SAHM of 8 years) next week but it is not enough to cover my expenses. I can stay with him, he says he wants to go to counseling and "work it out". Should I try to bide my time or just run?
Well we separated, I had a TRO, he was out of the house, he gave my boys and I nothing to live on for months, I finally got a court order and everything in my favor. Then like an idiot I let him back - my 7 year old son was suicidal (writing about killing himself at school) over the separation and my 6 year old was also having problems too. I let him move back, and 2 days before christmas he emptied our joint account and left me with 12 dollars. (He said he did it before I could do it) He put it back as soon as he realized I knew, I think becuase I did not react, I just called my attorney. His wages are being garnished on the 15th. If I pay no bills I could probably get a place with my kids,but then I have no back up if he quits his job or gets fired. ( He told me this was going to happen becuase he recently got a DUI and now I garnished his wages). I am starting a job (I have been a SAHM of 8 years) next week but it is not enough to cover my expenses. I can stay with him, he says he wants to go to counseling and "work it out". Should I try to bide my time or just run?

Let's see... you're getting a job... will just enable him that much more.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~