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Should I stay or go
| Fri, 09-16-2005 - 10:56pm |
First let me give a little background info on my situation. My husband and I moved our family out of state last November. He is a truck driver and because of his lack of home time we moved 600 miles from our hometown so he could get home more often. We have now separated and I am stuck in a town that I have fallen in love with because of the family atmosphere, and the school system. My children love it here. The problems are that 1)I have absolutely no friends, no support system. 2)am faced with having to find a job in a very small job market. I spent 15 years as a travel agent and this town(and 80 miles surrounding us)has no travel agency. And 3)although housing is much more affordable than in my home state I am having a problem finding it because I have no job, and terrible credit.
My family tells me to move home and my mother has a house lined up for me if I want it. My husband tells me that if I move back that he will fight me tooth and nail for custody of our 3 kids. Personally I think he wants me to stay here so I am alone, that way he has some controll over me. My husband says he is planning on living out of his Truck, but I think he is planning on moving in with his girlfriend located in an entirely differant state. If I file for divorce and custody here, I can move but will have to go back and forth for court, if I move home than I will have to establish residency and wait six months to file. Worrying contantly that my husband will take off with my children.
Everyone I talk to says I should move home, I am just so afraid that he will try to pull something. And although I do love it here I am so lonely and feel like I have no one. In the long run I think it would be tougher here to make it but am not sure. any advise???
My family tells me to move home and my mother has a house lined up for me if I want it. My husband tells me that if I move back that he will fight me tooth and nail for custody of our 3 kids. Personally I think he wants me to stay here so I am alone, that way he has some controll over me. My husband says he is planning on living out of his Truck, but I think he is planning on moving in with his girlfriend located in an entirely differant state. If I file for divorce and custody here, I can move but will have to go back and forth for court, if I move home than I will have to establish residency and wait six months to file. Worrying contantly that my husband will take off with my children.
Everyone I talk to says I should move home, I am just so afraid that he will try to pull something. And although I do love it here I am so lonely and feel like I have no one. In the long run I think it would be tougher here to make it but am not sure. any advise???

If you don't see yourself meeting people and being able to support your children where you currently live, then I'd move back home. If he's an over the road truck driver, what is the liklihood he'll be chosen for custody over you? I'd move home, take your mom up on that offer of a house, enjoy the support your family can give you and wait the six months. I think it will be worth it. Your kids will make new friends and love their new school as much as they love the one they now attend.
Best of luck with your decision. Let us know what you choose.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~