showing his true colors (update/vent)
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| Sat, 01-27-2007 - 12:47am |
My X and I have been communicating through email for the past couple of weeks about the health insurance he has on our daughter. This is how it has gone. . . (I've edited it a little to take out names.)
X: Why are you taking Lauren to see her therapist?
Me: I am taking her to see her therapist to help her deal with issues she has from our court battles and also left over from the divorce.
X: Was this doctor recommended?
Me: It's the same therapist that Lauren was seeing before. She has a very good relationship with Lauren.
X: Are you taking Lauren because you want too or was this doctor recommended?
Me: I'm taking Lauren because she was/is having trouble dealing with some of the issues around our on-going court battle and had expressed a desire to talk to her therapist about it. I need to know if this is covered under your insurance/copayment/deductible, etc so that I can fill the therapist in on billing issues.
X: Lauren is having problems with this because you want to tell her lies and put her in the middle. If you stop doing this and start putting Lauren first she will be much better; do I need to remind you were the one that took me to court. As far as Lauren being see by Ms Tammy that is something that I am not willing to pay for. Also, from what Lauren said about her I do not want her going there anymore.
Now he's ticking me off. From the very beginning (even before the divorce) they constantly pump her for info. I don't even talk about her dad (or ask questions about what goes on there) unless she brings it up and then it is only briefly (to answer her questions). I have told her that I don't like/trust her dad because of what has happened in the past, but I do my best to get along with him for her sake 'cause I love her more than anyone/thing in the world. I also told her that I was taking him to court to get some longstanding issues about custody changed and that he wanted her to go live with him instead of living with me. (After getting griped at by the gal, I've promised to not talk to her at all about the case. I've kept my promise.)
She is terrified of having to live with her dad. She clings to me every night cause she doesn't want to be away from me. She's only recently started (again) to punch herself in the forehead. She asked me a couple of weeks ago if she could go see her therapist again. Of course, I said yes and made the appointment. Lauren absolutely adores her therapist. I'm sure (as usual) they are going to construe anything she has said to make it sound the way they want it to.
He def. does not have the right to tell me who I can/can't take my daughter to see--especially when she has a wonderful relationship with her. As for him paying for it--I'm paying the copayment--not him. It's only his insurance that is getting charged. Him not agreeing to this is def. NOT in her best interests. I'm going to take this string of emails to my attorney on Monday before I decide on how to/or not to answer it.
And consequently, how does taking him to court to fix custody issues put Lauren in the middle?
Edited 1/27/2007 12:49 am ET by overwhelmed76

Cee
He's nuts!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~