Sick, scared, depressed, miserable...
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| Fri, 09-29-2006 - 11:58pm |
I have posted a couple of times but a little background. H filed for D in February out of the blue. I thought we were happy, great life, three kids, lovely home...
I suspected OW and he denied it. We have been living together pending sale of the home. It has been terrible. I unwillingly agreed to 50-50 phys custody. He is verbally abusive to the kids. I tried to get a TRO over the summer and it was denied. Well nearly 2 weeks ago he hit me and was arrested. TRO granted. We went to court yesterday and he has an attorney and I don't. He has tons of money and I am broke.
It appears that if the DA chooses not to prosecute, then he will likely retain his 50-50 physical custody. He is moving into a new house with OW and I am sickened.
I do not want him back and this is not my reason for depression. I am bruised and scarred from what he has done as before he was wonderful and treated me like a queen.
I need some counseling and some support please!!

How could we forget a screen name like yours? ;)
It is normal to come out of a situation like this feeling bruised and battered emotionally. You must be a strong woman, because many would not have called the police after he hit them. You did the right thing. With time and counseling, you can get through this. Have you been to counseling at all? It was a godsend for me.
(((hugs))) this situation sounds really terrible. I'm so sorry. He sounds a lot like my STBX, only mine was abusive before the "separation" (he hasn't moved out yet either) and now he isn't physically abusive anymore and rarely verbally abusive (although incredibly selfish and annoying still)
I hope it all works out. We're here for you!
Kate