Signing my final papers today-HELP
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| Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:21pm |
Well, today is the day I've been waiting for. I'm going to sign my final divorce papers. STBXH says it will be final as soon as filed by the court but I thought there was a waiting period.
Married 13 years- unhappy for 3+ years. Asked husband for counseling- he repeatedly refused- brought home articles- he threw them away. He stayed away from home all the time and never put me or the kids first. He never agreed or tried anything before I said I wanted out and by the time he agreed to go to counseling it was just too late for me. I almost had a nervous breakdown after what he, his family, our pastor and our friends put me through. He's said terrible untrue things against me in the divorce papers- called me a whore, all of that.
Why do I feel so sad?? Is this normal?? Please, someone tell me it is! I have a great guy in my life I met after the separation and things are unbelievable. Surely I can't be having regrets about my H?? I haven't missed him a bit.
I feel a mixture of emotions. Happiness-sadness-hurt-anger-excitement. Just wanting it to be over. Lots of things.

Completely normal...... but the good news is this is the next step in starting on your road to happiness.
There will be days that you just feel sad..... but as time goes on they will be far and few between.
Congratulations on beginning a new and positive future.
Hugs,
Angelena
Hi.... I hope that you're feeling better today.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I am a man and I divorced my first wife in May, 2003. I wasn't very happy during the time we were married and there was some relief when the final papers went through. However, divorce is an emotional process in itself that almost always brings out feelings of sadness, regret, or hurt. I was only married for three years and still I felt those emotions, even though I wanted out of the marriage. You were married for thirteen years, so you will undoudtedly feel a certain amount of sadness. Trust me, it's normal and it is healthy to experience it. You may actually feel a rush of adrenaline and excitement during the next week. When you have so many years of memories, some good and some bad, there will always be a feeling of some nostalgia. This man was part of your life and will always be a part of who you are, to some extent. But as it is often said, "this too shall pass". Good luck to you......
-Adam
but your feelings are normal
or i sure hope they are cause i feel it too
:)