signing papers this afternoon
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| Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:42am |
Well our waiting period is up. We are spose to go to the attorneys office and sign the final decree and do the quit claim. She said last time we talked to her that we do that then they take them to the judge and as soon as he gets time to look at them and sign them it is done.
I am kind of paranoid because he is not spose to have to go to court with this. at the beginning she said he would sign a waiver. Now she just said he just signs the decree.
Well..........three times in conversations with her she mentioned a court date. I could hear her over the phone.......and then I saidWhat court date? then she said Oh I have so many cases that is right ........you werent going to court.
I cant believe people that work in these attorney's offices are so stupid excuse the phrase. either she is stupid or they are trying to pull something over my eyes. but I dont think so.
I heard once nothing can be changed without our my written persmission but I dont know? can he go to court and try to give me less than what HE had put in the papers?
oh wow what a stressful day. Didnt want this in the first place....have had a broken heart and add the worry about losing my little house. it isnt much but its home.
thanks for letting me vent!!!

::::hugs::::::::::: to you.... Kath
Thanks Kath! I havent really cried yet. I started to. I hope to not cry at the attorney's office. boy this betrayal divorce stuff can do a job on you huh?
My stbx was standing there and said "I feel like I am going to court for something bad"
hmmphhh really? well he wants it. guess it doesnt even matter if it he thinks its bad
he must want someone else terribly bad.
thanks for your uplifting words. I will try to think of it as a first day of my life instead of my last.
big difference huh?
That sounds promising. I think many years ago if the defendant didnt show a hot lawyer could get stuff changed but not sure.
I am so untrusting now. Everytime I look at him I see betrayal and dishonesty. its sad. I thought he had some integrity.
I will hang in there. I will post when I get back and tell you all how it went. Please pray that I dont cry in their office. I need to be a strong woman.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen thanks so much for the poem that was sweet. Well we are back. I started to cry
going in the office but the secretary had made so many mistakes and confusing statements I sort of dwelled on that and made her explain some things.
Just before we left my STBX said this was making him sick to his stomach, then in the car before we went in the office he started to cry. Then when we got home and sat in the car to smoke he said he wasnt sure what was wrong with him. He didnt know why he did this. blah blah blah. He started to cry. And said he was so sorry .........
I said you know I gave you several chances to stop this and you did nothing. you said there was no way you were stopping it now. so that was it for me.
I guess even the person who wants it has thoughts of confusion. I was sort of ticked at first but had to remember that.
He is going to call his retirement fund to see at what age I can draw that. I think he feels sooooo guilty. so be it.
I told him hey you said it if wasnt this OW it would be someone else. I dont want to hear any of his sorry stuff.
ok I made it. She said that she will give them to the judge and when he gets to it he will sign them and they will mail out our decrees. wow I first typed degrees. yeah right a degree in what. well got to go .........thanks all of you. I will let you know when I get the decree (degree lol) in my hand!!
That's a marvel typo - we all deserve a degree for what we "learn" through the whole process.
I'm glad that you were strong to him.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~