Slowly but surely getting a life

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Registered: 02-26-2004
Slowly but surely getting a life
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 10:06am
It's been 10 months since STBX and I seperated. My eleven yr old son is living with me, he has the four yr old and all is okay. Difficult last week b/c the 12th would have been our 7th anniversary. But I made it! Yea he's still around and I get frustrated cause he won't discuss reconciling so i just deal with our new relationship best I can. I've since cut my hair to shoulder length, and I don't give into him when he wants to come over as much.For a while I was at his beck and call b/c I wanted to be near him so badly. I still But, I'm not gonna allow myself to do that anymore. Only if/when I want him to.
I've since signed up for an online certificate course, which begins tomorrow, so that will definitely take my focus off of him. I am determined to get on with my life, with or without him. Thank you all for your advice and support!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 8:26am

octavia22...

PG knows that getting over ANYBODY often takes more time than we anticipated?

But YOU'VE MADE THE CHANGES that are necessary for this phase of your life. Embrace the new stuff while making an attempt to 'discard' the old.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 10:17am
Congratulations for being strong and going on with your life. It will be hard, but you can do it and the more you do, it will take your mind off from a lot of it. I am going through a similar situation, but now my h wants another chance, I think because I filed for D and he is thinking about all he is about to lose. It is sad, but really I think he is more worried about losing $$$ than losing me and our DD. It has only been 7 weeks since I found out about his escapades (numerous) and it is hard, but like you, I know I need to go on with my life.
Take care and best of luck with getting your certificate. You'll be okay without him.
Hugs,
Lisa