Small altercation with visitation ....

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Small altercation with visitation ....
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 8:31am
pick up this AM. This is the 1st time (didnt take him long, a week & 1/2 & 3

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:12am
Do not know about the legalities at all (yet), but what I'm thinking is that even if you don't go to the GAL right away, you can log the things he is doing now, and if something like that happens again, then report it. And stay as analytical and businesslike as you are now, eventually he will see that he is not getting to you emotionally, that is what he is trying to do. Once you continue on this path, and he sees that you mean business, I think he will back off and look for someone else to annoy.
Again, as I wrote to you in one of your other posts, you have a pretty good handle on all of this, but by no means let this go. Even if you don't report this now, log, log, log everything in and stay emotionally detached from him.
Ah, when will these men get off our backs and let us live our life?
I know you really pretty much know the answer to most of these questions, and that you are just venting, but sometimes it feel good to just have it validated that you are on the right track. And you certainly sound like you are. Let him break his head over the questions that run around in it, you are not there to supply him with answers. You were very obviously way above him and a real good thing in his life; now why would he let of that so easily?
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:37am

I decided I wont go right to the GAL with it. I e'd my atty the info & if he may tell her himself when they speak. I e'd this letter to my atty, to see if it is appropriate to send to STBX, to outline the issues & put some limitations on the pick-up & drops-offs. Again, he may tell me to check with teh GAL, I dont know. but OH YES, i have documented every word he said. Thanks - here is the letter, I wont send it till my atty ok's it of course.


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Dear M,

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 9:03pm
Spoke w/

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 10:35pm
Sounds great!