So close....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
So close....
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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:54pm

I almost made it. My yds will be 18yo on August 1st. No going out without a last hurrah by the jerk, or the xh. :(

Ty, my youngest, has moved to live with another family in another state. Long story, but it's not one of problems; it is one of solutions. XH has not been paying CS for a while. I sent in the documents to get it started back up. Now he's throwing a fit. Why? Because he has to pay and I don't. ???? He was abusive, but this seems to go beyond that. He had a serious head injury about two or three years ago. I am really wondering if this has had a really bad effect on him that no one is aware of. So are my adult dds. He says things that make no sense at all in the context of the conversation. He is even more angry than he used to be and makes no attempt to hide it now.

So, he will probably take me to court. What an idiot. We have spent more money and time on attorneys and court hearings, and he has NEVER WON! I always end up having to pay for my attorney to write up the legal documents because he has never had an attorney who wasn't inept. His first attorney should have been running a taco stand.

GRRRRRRRR


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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 10:38pm

Oh wow, Steph..... you probably know him a lot better than any doctor, or perhaps even some of his closest friends or family, and you could be right about him having some lingering.... or new.... issue from the head injury that hasn't been noticed.

At any rate, I'm definitely thinking about you. Keep us updated on how things progress and I hope this whole process is as painless as possible and rewarding.

hugs,


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 2:09am

Turns out that xh had my 17yo ds sign a letter when he saw him saying that he was not living with either of his parents. After ds signed the letter, they added to it saying that he had been in Oregon 70% of the time since he had moved in with us in Washington. Hmmmmmmm That would be a good trick. Ds was on a program through the schools here where he met with his teacher once a week for an hour and then did his 25 hours worth of school work during the week. In the seven months he was here, he missed about one class a month. Two of those he was here and sick, two he was in Oregon to spend an extra couple of days, and one was when I was sick. The letter also said that he had been staying at "his brother's" house the 70% of the time he was down there. Well, that's interesting, too, since he was staying with the people he is living with now about 90% of the time he was down there.

Well, no surprise. They already forged a legal document that was presented to the court with my signature before and got away with it by blaming it on "one of the kids."


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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 11:56am

All of that aside, somebody is still buying his clothes and paying for the things that he needs.... if whoever you've arranged for him to stay with is "donating" that, then that's their choice... but nothing says that you aren't still the "responsible party" who ultimately will have to provide for him if the other avenues no longer pan out... and if you're the custodial parent/decision maker... and certainly you are for the time he's designated to be with you, you can make decisions for his care.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~