So Lost

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2012
So Lost
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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 6:16pm

My husband and I were married July 2011. I thought we had a good marriage. We did experience some financial issues, but things were looking up. He is a lot younger than me, but we had this amazing chemistry and feel in love got married. His family has tried to pull us apart from day 1, due to the age difference. Christmas day he moved out, took all of our money , including the rent moneyt and cut out all contact with me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: cwilliamsca
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 1:30am
I'm sorry but I think you need to accept that he really hasn't changed. He may have tried to for your sake, but after only 5 months of marriage he realized that he couldn't change who he really is. He's not willing to do marriage counseling and wants his freedom, and as hard as it is for you I'm afraid you'll just have to accept that. You really do need to get yourself into counseling because I can see how distressd you are over this. GOOD LUCK
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Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: cwilliamsca
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 9:24pm

I'm sorry but you were played. By this man, his family, and everyone who knew him.

Thank your lucky stars you weren't married to him any longer and that your losses, while significant, are something you can recover from with some help.

First things first. You need solid legal advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: cwilliamsca
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 12:24pm

I would have to totally agree with the other posters.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
In reply to: cwilliamsca
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 12:52pm

Well said, Wisdom. I don't think anyone can really add to that, other be thankful there are not children involved.

Years ago, I had a friend in a very similiar situation. She would not listen to anyone who told her he was doing drugs (she was very religious and did not even drink).

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Registered: 01-23-2012
In reply to: cwilliamsca
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 1:30pm
I cannot get out of bed. I cry all the time. I am so confused. He was a good and loving husband while we were married. The drug that I know he is doing is pot. Most say that is not a big deal. I know when he is on that, he does not care about anything. I am not sure if he is doing other types of drugs or not. He is fully fuctioning though, working out now, working at his job, and going to EMT school. So I look like the crazy one. I don't know how he is able to do all of this, and I cannot function or get out of bed. I lost my home, my animals, he left me with a vechile that is not safe to drive. I experienced bad chest pain last night, as I have a bad heart. I begged his friend and cousin, the only two contacts to get a hold of him, and explained I needed to to ER having chest pain. He never contacted me to help me. I don't know how he could be like this towards me. Noone calls me, I feel so alone in world and very unloved. The pain so deep that I cannot get out of bed and I feel like a nervous wreck all the time. I feel like my life is over and nothing good is going to happen for me. I am really scared about my life. I feel so alone.