So unsure
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So unsure
| Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:28pm |
Ok, Here's my story. Married for 7 years, one child, been together for 11 years, since high school. I've always been a little chubby but very insecure about it. Long story short, I thought that I couldn't get anyone and no one else would want me. I WAS insecure. Now I am an adult and realize that I am attractive and interesting. I love my husband the way a girl loves a best male friend. He is my best friend but I'm not sure if I wanna be married to him any more. I feel like I am too young(27) to continue a life of unhappiness and uncetainty. He is a good man and a fantastic father. I want a divorce but I don't want to hurt him. Am I being selfish or do I need to do what's best for me. My son is 2. I know it would not be best for him if I leave. I need perspective from someone who has been there. I know it will be very difficult but I just don't want to live a life of regret. I've been to therapy. It was great but now I have no insurance for a little while. Please, any help would be great.

Most people believe you should work on your marriage if you can. Only you can decide if you can. I was in a similar spot to you, my marriage was not what a marriage should be, we were more friends and we had gone on like that so long that even our friendship was starting to errode because we were both not happy and could not be happy with each other.
You can't leave him IMHO without hurting him. You can't leave without it having some affect on your son. But the effect on all of you might be positive in the long run, if you and your husband can make a committment to remain friends, to co-parent and to put your son's interests first. My dd is way better off than if I had stayed IMHO.
What did your therapist say before you stopped going?