The SOB is back!!

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Registered: 11-13-2004
The SOB is back!!
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:22am
He showed up at my house last night!! I talked to him on the phone and told him to call me when he got into town and we would make arrangements to meet somewhere (a neutral place) for him to pick up the kids. I made it absolutely CLEAR to him that I did NOT want him showing up at my house, especially with her, and that I would PREFER to meet in a neutral place. I do not see the point of him coming to my house all the time to pick up the kids. He barges in like he owns the place and we always fight. I was NOT up for that last night! I thought a neutral place was more appropriate so that we WOULDN'T fight. When he got to town, he called me alright! He called me from HER car right ACROSS THE STREET from my HOUSE!! So much for a neutral place! He got out of the car and starting walking to my house. I walked outside and stopped him when he got to the porch. Of course, that's when the fight started. Why did I think for a SECOND that he would give me that one last courtesy, to NOT show up at my house!! He is the most self centered SOB I have ever known. He doens't give a damn about my feelings and has NO RESPECT for my wishes! I don't know why I am suprised at that. He never cared about my feelings while we were together, why should he care now!
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:45pm
I'd tell him a time and a place to get the kids and I'd be sure NOT to be home so that he has no choice but to show up there! Take control of the situation and just tell him what's going to happen.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 11:11pm
Exactly my idea. Cut him off b4 he CAN do it. (((hugs!))) R~
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 1:26pm

HUGE (((((HUGS))))).

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 5:30pm

If you are separated and he shows up starting fights in most states you CAN call the cops and have him removed. He most likely won't be arrested, just told to leave. I know that's how it is here in NC. Before I had the restraining order on STBX my atty said that if he EVER showed

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 4:21pm

How awful! If this is the house ya'll lived in together, I sure hope the locks have been changed. Your home should be a peaceful sanctuary. I hope the neutral place for possession change works out for you -- and fast. It worked well for us to have the possession switch occur at daycare/school. You might try to achieve that and youw on't have to lay eyes on each other.