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Sole custody....
| Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:04am |
I have a question ladies.
My ex husband gave me sole custody of my 2 children without a fight. I live in NY. The divorce was final 1/18.
His girlfriend likes to threaten custody based on things she "thinks" she knows about my life. The one she picked this weekend was that we plan on moving this summer to a better town and school district. She lives in the West Side of Buffalo, HIGH crime and REALLY bad area, but "owns" the house. She thinks that the kids would be better off with her and my XH, because we will be moving atleast once more before buying a house next year.


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Can you talk to your ex about this - she shouldn't be butting into what is not her business. As Firstamendment likes to recommend, maybe give her the book "Ex-etiquette" for her and your ex to read as a "group project."
This is what causes problems - when the 3rd person gets involved between the parents of the child.
My ex doesn't do a thing. He just sits back and lets it happen. When I ask him about it, he ignores it and moves on to other things. I really just refuse to fight with him anymore so I drop it.
This "girl" just keeps going... it never stops! ARGH!
Thanks for the advice.
Hugs,
Angelena
Definitely... for EX to come back now..... it's only been a few months... and say that he wants to change the custody, the judge would likely tell him to go fly a kite.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
It always hurts when they suggest or threaten something that would break your heart.
I did not know that.... wow. Interesting.
I think it's rotten that OW decides to get involved with this stuff. She only tries to hurt me, which she succeeds, sometimes. She knows I love my kids and I miss them when they are gone for the weekend let alone forever. That's the only thing she can get on me now, so she uses that.
Can I just tell you guys that I have 10-15 of her email addresses BLOCKED from my email address. She got ANOTHER email address and then emailed me "warning" me last week. Thus the reason for this post.
My ex doesn't ever threaten custody. I know better. But I also know she has a roll in what he thinks 99% of the time. I know if she pushes long enough, he might try it.
Well, she is and will always be the holy grail I guess. Her life will be better than mine, forever. Whether she gets fired from a job for coming back to work drunk after a 3 hour lunch ( I used to work at this place and found out the reason ) or whether she is underage and out drinking with her fake ID... with her 30 year old "boyfriend"...... makes me so mad.
Will this ever stop? Is there anything I can do?
I guess I feel better about this than I did yesterday. I know she can't do anything, she has no say. I also know EX would never file for sole custody because he doesn't have the financial backing for a court battle and he doesn't want kids full time, that's why he left me! He wanted to be single and "alive". He is happy with having every other weekend, that's proven because I get weekends like this weekend, it's easter, supposed to be his weekend and he gives them up... just like that.
I guess sometimes I just need to vent and hear some outside people tell me he can't do anything and she is nuts. lol.
Thanks guys, I feel a lot better.
Hugs,
Butterfly,
So she's stupid enough to e-mail you threats? Ha! Keep a hard copy of those puppies in a file somewhere. Send a copy of them to your attorney "FYI." Indeed, keep a record of all the email addresses you've blocked that have come from her. I bet a judge would find these very interesting if indeed it ever came to a court challenge over custody.
Don't respond to her. You're under no obligation to do so.
Good luck.
I agree with wisdomtooth.... keep hard copies of all of the e mails and addresses that you blocked.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi guys,
Wouldn't it be sweet if you gave him some of those
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
butterfly - remember what our parents used to tell us about bullies? ignore them and eventually they will find someone else to pick on. that's what you need to do here. if you let her know that she *got* to you - she will continue. its up to YOU to put an end to this. just DON'T respond to ANY of her threats, calls, emails. don't even SAY to her "i am not responding" - just DON'T respond. and as the other posters said - of course keep copies of all emails . I am assuming that your ex is paying CS and she would like him to not pay any more, that's probably what this is all about.
hang in there!
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