SOMEhow, he can still shock me ....

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SOMEhow, he can still shock me ....
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 4:40am

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 8:53am

I guess I'm a little confused as to why you continue to respond to his emails and text messages. When you get one, do not respond--forward it to your attorney. Let him deal with your ex. I know this is easier said than done--I went through it. But when my now ex realized that I was no longer reacting to him and his stupid emails, he eventually quit sending them.


Remember, you cant reason with an unreasonable person. He's not reasonable. All he is seeing is you are keeping his daughter from him. He's not understanding the "Why's" of it all. Let your attorney and counselor deal with that.


I have one question...in the past, did your daughter initiate the calls to him?


I know how hard a situation this is. Be there for your daughter, but let your attorney, counselor and GAL deal with your stbx.


HUGE hugs


Deb

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:33am

No- i havent responded to anything in weeks. Im talking like 6 emials & 45 text messages. This one i had to b/c he called the house to speak to Averey for the 1st time in 3 weeks,

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:48am

im sorry. I didnt see in your original post that you called your attorney after his message to determine what to say.


What if you called his attorney to respond to whatever message? Or forward the email to his attorney with your response? Wont the fees for this go on your ex's tab?? That way his attorney can

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 10:11am

I have to laugh b/c he refuses to change his mailing address from our (MY!) home. So a month ago i compiled all his mail & sent it to his attorney, with no return addy (b/c i knew he woudnt open in if he knew it was from me) & you know what the B***** did?

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 1:47pm

It sounds like you are dealing with TWO children here! Good thing you'll only keep the 5 year old and get rid of the other.

Keep being strong and hang in there!

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 2:09pm

Hi Rebecca,

My STBX hasn't changed his mailing address yet either! What is it with these guys? He even opened a new checking account, had all his checks, credit card and other banking info sent to the house! All his bills come here, all the magazines, ridiculous! My atty just told me to forward it to his new address, and let the Post Office deal with it. That way I don't have to pay for postage. I even forward the junk mail, just to piss him off!

Sorry to hear that things have gotten so stressful for you both, not what you need this time of year. I think you're doing a great job especially considering the situation he continues to put you in. I hope that your divorce will be settled soon and you can be rid of him!

Hugs, Mel

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:16pm
lol, THATS an understatement! & its funny, the 5 yr old is MUCH more mature, & WAY less aggravating, OR expensive!

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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:17pm
Cause' they are in D-E-N-I-A-L i beleive. Not to mention childish & take no responsibility!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 12:53am

I would print me some labels that say "no longer at this address, please return to sender", and when mail comes that's for him, I'd slap on a label and drop it back in the mailbox.


I'm still thinkin' about ya!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 12-16-2005 - 1:06am
VERY good idea! Will do!

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