Sometimes life is shocking

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2003
Sometimes life is shocking
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 8:24pm

Brief background- I was a sahm. Marital problems have plagued us from the beginning. The doo doo really hit the fan when i started to make serious moves toward separation and divorce.

My STBX said he went to a lawyer a couple of months ago and built a big case against me for custody. He said that the lawyer thinks he has better than average chances of getting sole custody. He's been holding this over my head- threatening me with it regularly for months. I stayed, went for counselling etc in part because I was afraid of losing my kids.

Turns out that today I found out that the lawyer my STBX claims to have seen doesn't even practice family law. So- worst case scenario this meeting with the lawyer never happened and it's all a lie to control me... best case is that he saw this lawyer who knows nothing about family law and was talking out of his arse. Yet the result remains that I completely rearranged my life, made concessions that I shouldn't have- all out of fear of something that was not very truthful. Sometimes you have to say WTF?!?!

Is it me... or is this completely nuts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 6:53am

You need to stop listening to him. He is obviously being as manipulative as possible. You need to stop concessions to him, especially that involve the children. The judges will look at what you have been doing as far as custody for a precedent. Finally, you need to get a lawyer.

Good Luck,

Tina

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 7:45am

Your STBX is just evil.