Soon to be military exwife....have ?'s
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 12:16am |
My husband and I have been married 8+ years. Well, I asked for a seperation, we've haven't been happy for a while. He just moved out (got a apartment last week but has been staying with a friend from work for a few weeks), so hes been out about a month.
Well, hes dating already, which is fine.
We verbally agreeded to stay legally seperated for financial and health insurance reasons. He says his taxes will go up alot when he can't claim me, and I will lose health insurance for myself. I'm fine with this arrangement, and he seemed to be too. I have not worked in almost 8 years (since I got pregnant with my first child) and we moved overseas. We have moved SO much that I have not been able to have even a small part time job for very long. So I don't have much job experience. Nor did I finish college. I have put my life on hold all this time.
Well today he tells me that he want to get started with the divorce because something to the effect "women dont like dating men that aren't legally divorced'. I think the date he went on Saturday must have said that too him.
Now, per our verbal agreement, the kids and I (we have 2) were going to stay in military housing until the school year is out. But once we file for divorce and this gets started, we have 30 days to vacate. I dont make that much money right now (I went from not working all those years to working 30+ hours a week). He was going to let me wait till I got on my feet more before we got divorced. Now he's wanting it.
I dont want to be mean. I dont want to be one of those women that takes their ex to the cleaners. But I need to be able to survive and take care of my kids (they will live with me). My job is very flexable and understanding when it comes to children. And he is fine with that I dont make much but can be there at moments notice if need be, or take them with me to work. However its not the highest paying job.
How do I find out how much I am entitled to for both child support and alimony. This is all so overwhelming.
Thanks