This is sooo hard...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
This is sooo hard...
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 4:30pm

I just saw my husband here at home three days. He needed some papers and fix something for me and it was so weird. I needed to know if he was actually dating already (he mentioned he would two weeks ago) and he said yes. In fact, he's already sleeping with her. It about kills me. This is only the 3rd week that we split, yet here he is, already finding somebody else. I know for him, the last 2 years were set up for this, but to me, it's so incredible disrespectful... I can't stand it when he says "You, too, will soon know how much you missed and be glad I walked out". I knew perfectly well what I gave up when I married him- it's so frustrating to hear him say stuff like this - almost as if he's doing me a favor...

I feel more and more drawn to Germany... That's where I'm from, this is where I want to be. Why struggle here through all this when I could maybe have more space, less painful memories and the support I'm missing on here?!

Thanks for letting me get this off of my chest.

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 6:07pm
I know what you mean. My stbx is still living here and gets text messages from a girl he's already met. He's moving out soon, thank goodness. But how disrespectful is it to do this so quickly and right in front of me? Finally, I had enough and I asked him to have a little decency and keep his social life out of our home. But, I stll feel this insane need to know what he's doing and who he's doing it with. I only wind up feeling tortured, so i'm not sure why i keep asking. Anyway, I know what you are going through and I know that it's physically and emotionally painful to watch. I hope we both can move on and get past this...and maybe be happier in the end.

Katy

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 9:17pm
Go to Germany, and Live Live Live!!! Good Luck