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Starting the journey
| Sun, 07-29-2007 - 2:12pm |
I have been married for 27 years (YIKES!) this year and have been contemplating seperation/divorce for 3 years now. After much soul searching and realizing things were not going to improve, I have decided to take the big step and contact an attorney. I am waiting on seperation paperwork (which was just started 4 days ago) to be completed before I move to the next step (whatever that will be). Of course that all depends on whether husband will agree to the terms. I did not discuss with him that I had obtained an attorney, so he will be shocked to say the least! I'm not sure how he will react, but I hope he just signs the paperwork so we can both move on. Has anyone pursued a seperation without having a discussion with your husband beforehand? We do NOT talk about anything and haven't for quite some time; we merely occupy the same house. I have put off seperating over the past 3 years because we have 2 children (12 y/o and 9 y/o), but I think I have finally realized that being together doesen't always make it right just for the kids. I have friends who have been asking for the past year or two what I was waiting on! I thought I could wait until I finished college (I decided to go back to school at the age of 42), but I still have 1 1/2 years remaining and it would only be wasting more time. It's nice to read other posts and realize I'm not alone!

Hey, I think that the first step, talking to an attorney, will help to put things into perspective as far as what your rights and responsibilities will be... and that will go a long way towards helping you make decisions.
Sometimes, ya just have to say.... "we're not happy, let's move on."
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~