Staying Focused

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Staying Focused
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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 9:29am

How do all of you stay focused at work? My boss is out of town so my motivation for work is zero. Last night I had a BAD night. I received a birthday card (my bday is next week) from a friend that I use to work with that I haven't heard from in months. In the card it said "I heard from Beverly what happened and I'm sorry". That was the last thing I wanted to read in my birthday card. While I know she meant no harm, I just broke down in tears.

My emotions are all over the board. Last month I'm dealing with my husband being very sick and possibly terminal (he was diagnosed with liver disease). Just a few weeks later my husband is being arrested for stealing money from his employer (WTF and no I have no clue what he was up to). Then when it couldn't get any worse... it was in the friggen newspapers so there's my life out for everyone to read. In the article it talks about him and his past. They also mention me and our home address. Nice huh? I went from having the normal every day life to this.

Someone in a previous post recommended journaling and have started to do that. I have a therapy appt today at lunch and I can't wait to see her. Sorry for rambling about the other stuff. I seemed to have gotten off my topic. Any tips for just staying focused when you're at work would be great.

Melissa

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 9:37am

You may have to look at medication. I am not saying that lightly! Geez, you have just had your world turned upside down and I don't know of many people that don't need a little help after having their history rewritten for them. I just can't imagine! Good luck and let us know if the therapist helps you!

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Registered: 04-01-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 9:57am

I understand completely!

I walk into the dentist the other day and the first thing the hygenist says is, "so, you and "blank" are split up?" I'm at the DENTIST! Don't misunderstand, I wasn't offended and had no problem talking about it, but I'm just tired of my life being a public spectacle and soap opera (STBX has had an ongoing, very public affair with the typical trashy town skank).

I too have a hard time not dwelling on my situation (at work, at home, in the car (this is a particularly bad time)... always).

I try to stay as busy as possible... easier said than done sometimes. I must agree with the last poster on the drug issue. I went to my doctor and she was so empathetic. She said this was the worst thing I would ever go through and that it was OK that I take something to calm my nerves. When I said I was worried about getting addicted, she said not to be... she would take care of me and make sure that didn't happen. She prescribed me 0.5mg Xanax to take once a day. It really helps (in addition to upping my antidepressant from a very low 37.5 to a normal 75mg (Effexor XR).

This truly is one of the worst experiences someone can go through. We need to try to be gentle with ourselves (I'm saying that as much for my benefit as for yours!).

Best wishes,
bbalm

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 3:19pm

Hi Melissa.... journaling is very


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