stbx asked me to stop divorce

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Registered: 05-05-2005
stbx asked me to stop divorce
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 1:05am
He has been cheating for months. I finally gave up when he refused to see someone who could help us and I filed for divorce and moved out. When I talked to him Sunday he said he could not get over me leaving and was happy. I have worked very hard to be okay with this. I really feel like the last two days I have felt great and finally was seeing the other side. We ran into stbx at the store parking lot today. I asked him to stay with the kids a few minutes while I ran into the store. When I got back out he said he had to leave and walked off. I thought he was still mad about the fight we had on Sat. Tonight I get a text that he needs to see me. I put him off. He finally convinced me to see him. When I got there he started saying he was sorry and wanted this to stop. He wanted me back and so on. I was shocked. I am not ready to take him back. I am going to continue the divorce. I did tell him if he wants to truly get some help to try and work this out he can find a therapist and pay for it. I am willing to show up and see where it takes us. I told him I was not making any promises. I really feel we need therapy. I don't know where it will lead us. If nothing else maybe we can get help being divorced parents. I want to be able to say that I tried everything I could to fix this if it ends. I don't want to have regrets. I know I am not ready to even think about taking him back. I need to get myself right first. Then we will see where it goes.

 

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 9:43am

It sounds like you've got your head on straight in the midst of a confusing and scary time. I can totally understand not wanting to have regrets and wanting to know you gave it all you could.

At the same time, I think you are taking the right steps to care for yourself and your children. Who knows where you'll end up but it seems like you are doing all the right things.

lots of hugs and good wishes.

M

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 1:46pm
Oh Jennifer! Best of Luck! Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:06pm

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