Well, I am very sorry for the crap your STBX is putting you through. My ex did the same thing. He would always threaten to take the kids from me. Of course he never followed through on his threat. He knows saying that will get you upset. I learned that the best response to that threat is to say nothing at all. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing that he upset you. I know it is hard but it will work out. Good luck
I know exactly how you feel. My ex did that to me when I got divorced. I drew up our divorce papers myself and he and I discussed everything that was in them, down to the amount of child support he would pay. Well I had only received 200 dollars in a little over a year, and he wouldn't get a job just so he didn't have to help me out. I still let him talk to our girls and I talked to him, but never discussed anything about the divorce with him or ask him for any money. The girls and I did okay, but when I moved in with my SO, my ex got mad. He started calling me all the time and telling me that he was going to fight me because he didn't get to see his kids every other weekend. (because my SO and I moved) He even called once and said that he had gotten some papers that I needed to sign so that he could give me permission to move out of state and live with my SO without being married. I finally got so tired of the harassment. I told him that I wouldn't speak to him anymore and that if he needed to contact me, to have his lawyer do it. Needless to say, I didn't hear anything from him except an apology. He hasn't bothered us since. I guess he realized that in order to hire an attorney, he would have to get a job, and if he did that, they would hold child support out of his check, so either way, I won. Your ex is probably just trying to get under your skin. Be civil to him for your children, but don't discuss any legal matter with him directly and don't fight with him about it. If he keeps it up, just tell him you can correspond through lawyers. Maybe that will get him off your case. Hope this helps.
Hey, I am so where you are right now. My ex and I have been going through the divorce process for a little over a year now, we both have attorneys, now we have had a guardian ad litem appointed, and we are going through a custody study. It is very stressful, I can't stand the way that all these people are involved in our lives but so far only one has met our kids, and that person only talked with the oldest for about a half an hour or so. If you want to chat you can email me at aderks@new.rr.com, I send you a ton of hugs and hopeful thoughts!!!
Awe hugs!
If he doesn't have enough money to pay his share of daycare then how is he gonna afford a lawyer?
I think you are probably right that he doesn't stand a chance and that it is all about the money.
Talk to your attorney for reassurance.
My kids are clamoring for attention ... gotta go.
Hugs,
M
Hey, I am so where you are right now. My ex and I have been going through the divorce process for a little over a year now, we both have attorneys, now we have had a guardian ad litem appointed, and we are going through a custody study. It is very stressful, I can't stand the way that all these people are involved in our lives but so far only one has met our kids, and that person only talked with the oldest for about a half an hour or so. If you want to chat you can email me at aderks@new.rr.com, I send you a ton of hugs and hopeful thoughts!!!
Angie