STBX letting 9 y/o ADD DS drive

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STBX letting 9 y/o ADD DS drive
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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:25am
Yes, you heard that correctly. STBX is letting 9 y/o DS who has ADD/ODD, and a possible BIPOLAR Disorder drive a car. We own a car salvage yard, and STBX is letting him drive. The yard is surrounded by cranberry bogs, and is not on a main road, but this is cranberry harvestine season, and there are 18 wheelers going by on the road that STBX is letting DS drive on. I JUST found out about this. I voiced my displeasure ad concern to STBX, but his attitude is: "You don't want him to have any fun." Can you believe this?? I'll call my lawyer and let her know. DS's counselor is extremely concerned about this, since DS have very little impulse control.
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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 3:33pm

Oh my goodness!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 5:19pm
Well, the thing is, we allowed our 18 y/o to drive when he was small, maybe 7 or 8. STBX thought it was a great idea; we live in a rural area, with a lot of farms, and it isn't out of the ordinary for kids to be driving on their parents' property before they have their licenses. I'll admit STBX pretty much bullied me into it by saying, "Mom doesn't want you to have fun". The issue I have about younger DS driving is that with the ADD, and the privatr road being busier than it was when older DS was that age-- it worries me.
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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 6:32pm
And that needs to be exactly what you tell your EX your concerns are.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 8:09pm
STBX already thinks I'm overprotective/neglectful/whacko. My lawyer knows about this and is ready to tear him a new . She was going to call STBX today to get his new lawyer's info so she can start filing some more papers against him. I'll leave it up to her.
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:40pm

I just wanted to update the board about this. My lawyer called STBX, and told him not to allow DS to drive when he is at his place, AND to get the name of STBX's new attorney (so she can start the motion to compel documents-- he never send his discoveries and interrogatories back)... I took DS to the crisis center to be evaluated, and they know about the driving issue as well. They were going to file a report with DSS (Department of Social Services), and let them investigate if DS is at risk. The social worker at the crisis center said that it sounded like DS and STBX, and STBX's family are all bipolar.

STBX picked up DS at school yesterday, and I told him "DS isn't supposed to be driving at your place, so please don't allow him to do thta anymore." He made some comment about, "YOU have to tell him so he knows." Sure I'll tell him, but STBX has to start being a PARENT and not a BUDDY who lets our sons do whatever they want. STBX doesn't know about the DSS part, and I'm not going to give him any hint about it either. ;-)




Edited 11/8/2005 3:41 pm ET by susieyippin
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:43pm

Good grief!!!!

I have a 9yo DD and she couldn't even reach the pedal.

Dad is being majorly irresponsible in my opinion. I just hope your son doesn't get mad at YOU over this. I would expect Dad might put you down for it to him. What an abusive jerk!

I sure hope your son doesn't try to disobey and drive anyway and get hurt!

Cupcake

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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 8:24am

Well, if DS is mad, he'll get over it. I have 2 counselors, his pediatrician, DSS, the social worker, a child psychiatrist, my lawyer, assorted relatives and friends supporting me on this, so STBX can go pound sand.

My lawyer is filing a motion to compel against STBX for not getting the Discoveries and and Interrogatories back in the allotted time, so STBX is not on good footing. He's such a dirtbag.