I had a similar situation, in that xh's grandmother passed away in November after we separated... post separation, my xh alienated himself from his family, while Joey and I remained close... I helped my xbil arrange for the flowers... we all went to the visitations and funeral... we did not go together... I did not sit with xh, but did sit with the family since Joey is family... it was what I felt I needed to do...
Is there anyone in his family that you're still speaking with?
Hey buckeygold You need to do what you are comfortable with regarding your MIL. Your son may be wanting you to come with him. Be strong for your son, but don't feel like you need to be strong for your stbx. I do wish you the best, you have been through so much...stay strong!! And if you want to go to the funeral, then go...it will be your decision, if it is awkward for anyone it will be for the new g/f... Hold your head high and do what you feel comfortable with for you and your son!! Hugs...
I had a similar situation, in that xh's grandmother passed away in November after we separated... post separation, my xh alienated himself from his family, while Joey and I remained close... I helped my xbil arrange for the flowers... we all went to the visitations and funeral... we did not go together... I did not sit with xh, but did sit with the family since Joey is family... it was what I felt I needed to do...
Is there anyone in his family that you're still speaking with?
You need to do what you are comfortable with regarding your MIL. Your son may be wanting you to come with him. Be strong for your son, but don't feel like you need to be strong for your stbx. I do wish you the best, you have been through so much...stay strong!! And if you want to go to the funeral, then go...it will be your decision, if it is awkward for anyone it will be for the new g/f... Hold your head high and do what you feel comfortable with for you and your son!!
Hugs...
I went through this last fall.
Funeral's (IMHO) are not to comfort the deceased, but the deceased ones family.