STBX offering help--yah right

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Registered: 04-27-2008
STBX offering help--yah right
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Tue, 05-27-2008 - 8:52pm
So, STBX phones tonight and wants to know when he can come up and split wood, he has booked a wood splitter (wants to get the wood in for me for the winter--as if he has the money to rent that--owes tonnes for his lawyers fees, and me for ,,,,,well lots). Where was he last winter for help,he has never done the stuff needed to be done around the house. More manipulation (it's the alcholic/narcisstic personality). Oh and he sent my Mom a card hoping she would be back to her golf game soon--she had cataract surgery last week--more manipulation. And... he asked me why I wasn't proceeding with the divorce, only with the separation... told him that I wasn't emotionally ready for that... so he said well what's the point in holding off in that????GEEZ!!!!! I'm thinking that I should just go ahead with the divorce proceedings...he's driving me insane. I wish he would LEAVE ME and my family ALONE!!!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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Registered: 04-27-2008
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 7:46pm
I'm responding to my own post here. I really need your opinions on this--I'm wondering whether I'm cutting my own throat here telling him not to come up and do the wood b/c I REALLY want to do this (and other things) on my own, b/c I need too, as well as because of his ulterior motives/manipulative behaviour (always another motive with everything he does--that alcoholic thing.) I have really respected your opinions on my issues so far, and would love your input.
ps and...I cut the lawn tonight!!!--figured it out with some help mixing the oil and gas ;)
Thanks!!!