STBX tying up his salary
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| Tue, 01-23-2007 - 8:59pm |
My stbx has reduced his take home pay by adding dental and vision insurance, upping the contribution to his flexible spending plan (reimburses non-covered medical expenses) and proposes moving out in less than a month (by renting an apt. which would reduce his salary by another $1500!!!!)
Including the rent, he will reduce his monthly net income to less than the state-mandated minimum the court would require him to pay for spousal and child support based on his gross salary. He gets credit for the insurance premiums for the kids, but they don't need dental or vision insurance. And he doesn't make all the medical co-payments he'd get reimbursed for; *I* do!!!!
Has anyone had this experience?
If the court gives me everything left after his rent (which is less than the minimum mandated by law), he will have no money for utilities, food etc. Not that the spousal and child support will cover the mortgage and home equity loan, either; leaving me and the kids no money for utilities and food.
I know ... I will be calling my lawyer in the morning (fat lot of good she has been so far) ... looking for yet another new one.
Anyway, love to hear from you if you have had a similar experience!
M

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I will pray for you and your husband.
As for my bil ... yes, he did AA. And they did marriage counseling and faith was a big part of their lives (I think that helps alot). No saying he might not slip one day. He still smokes 3-5 cigarettes a day, but as vices go that's not so bad and helps him cope with general stress.
I always thought he was a really good guy; his failings came as a bit of a shock to me. I think the "good guy" won out over his troubles. A good and very strong guy to resist all the temptations. He and his wife work really really hard at their relationship and still have their conflicts. I think the baby, while understandable statement of commitment and renewed passionate love may be a mistake -- creates such HUGE stress. I just hope they can both keep on keeping on. To date they are a fine example of overcoming the odds.
I hope you and your husband are, too.
M
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