STBX wants to introduce girlfriend !

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Registered: 10-11-2006
STBX wants to introduce girlfriend !
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 10:41am

My soon to be ex (seperated 6 months now) wants to introduce our 8 yr old son to his new girlfriend. He has only been seeing her for like a month. I feel it is waaaayyyy too soon for that! Am I wrong? We only split up the household and moved into different apartments 2 months ago, so in my son's mind it has probably only been 2 months since mom and dad split. My ex has no concept of how this could negatively affect our son. I suggested waiting a few more months but he balked at that idea! How do I handle this? Do I just let him introduce her and just pick up the pieces afterwords? My ex has already ditched my son in favor of dates with her a few times. I feel if he introduces her to my son she will be around all the time and my son will be neglected or ignored. This is all so hard! What should I do?

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Registered: 10-11-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 10:41am
Yes, I dodged a bullet this time. It's only a matter of time before he finds his next victim though and I'll be in the same spot again. Oh well! I can't even imagine how in his mind I would want him back after all he has put me through. I really believe he has that Narcissitic(spelling?) Personality Disorder. He truly believes he can do no wrong and that the world should bend to his will! So sad.
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Registered: 09-24-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:44am
So sorry to hear that Cindy!! >>>HUGS<<< wishing you extra goodness today! The big question is do you want to give him his 100th chance? Perhaps you could just make it part of the divorce agreement that he seek counselling...is that possible? Good luck! Keep your chin up and keep us posted. --Joy

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