STBXH is engaged.

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Registered: 03-13-2005
STBXH is engaged.
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Sat, 10-15-2011 - 9:54pm

Someone forwarded me a pic off of facebook showing that STBXH is already engaged.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 10-16-2011 - 3:14pm

Hi;

Wow;; that pretty much sucks big time..

Is that why you are getting divorced?? He had a gfriend all along...................???

Men dont waste anytime in finding a new woman.. I left home in 2006 because my ex was verbally abusive.. I wasnt out the door for a second and he was already on multiple dating sites.. He found a few people right away.. I am not comparing my situation to yours but saying it did sting me big time.... in thinking.. Wow ; maybe my ex will get help.. Yeah; he got help with other women.

Most of the time we never really know who anyone is?? I never knew my ex.. Now I do and its daunting.. I just have accepted things the way they are .. and have accepted my ex for the person he is.. We even talk now and are somewhat civil but he is who he is. That control freak with huge insecurities..

I am so sorry but you are going to have to accept this and do the best you can in moving forward.. A wise person once said.. Dont waste anymore space in your head with your ex.. Its not easy but it can be done.

Now focus on yourself and your life and what you want out of it.. A new job, new friends, new hobbies. Its challenging but it can be done. Thousands of divorced women and men do it all the time.

Are you in counseling?? That is a good place to vent feelings and get validation?
Divorced support groups are great also.. You will find others in your situation.

I am not making light of your situation but you are going to have to accept it..

I can bet your ex and the new woman wont survive if he cheated on you.. Most new relationships dont last long when there is cheating involved according to statistics....Oh; and of course the grass is always greener.

My ex found a big gold digger who drains him financially.. Only thing they are both cucku and deserve each other...and hope they stay together and leave the normal population alone (lol)

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 12:59pm

You're divorced..........so he's free to do what he wants.....whether or not it's stupid.

My ex was stupid......VERY stupid.

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Registered: 10-20-2011
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 4:59pm

I know what you mean.