STBX's visitation w/kids

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Registered: 12-02-2003
STBX's visitation w/kids
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Tue, 04-15-2008 - 12:58am

To recap: My STBX told me our marriage was over Jan. 31. He moved out on Feb. 9. Into the apartment of a woman he had met online, through Myspace. Her very first comment to him

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 8:35am

I went through a similar situation, but my kids were younger. THey are boys and at the time, were 6 and 4. My ex left here and moved in with some girl, and her 2 kids, he had met a few weeks prior. I filed papers and had in the papers that she could not be around for visitation. That order lasted 3-4 months.


You can request in the court orders "no sleepovers with someone of the opposite sex in the presence of the kids".

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 10:51am

I also agree that it will affect the 12 yo more than the 4 yo.

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 12:44pm

Hi there delicateviolet,


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Yes, its disgusting.


<< What kind of message does that show them about marriage? >>


That your husband, the children's father,

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 10:13pm

Thanks for the input. I keep trying to put myself in my STBX's shoes... to figure out how he could think that having the girls meet his

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Registered: 12-15-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 8:40am

I have been in your shoes before, BUT luckily my kids were still so young. They do not even remember him and I being together. In your situation, there is a 12 year old daughter involved. You know how confusing 12 was and throw this in..WOW..WTH is he thinking??? I think this is sending the wrong message. Your husband sees nothing wrong with it b/c he is thinking with the wrong head. He is moving on and I can only imagine he flaunts it to get back at you. What a jerk. Stay strong. Have you considered consulting a lawyer so you can at least get child support and visitation agreement in place? Maybe you can have a clause about no overnight guests of the opposite sex until the kids have adjusted better to the seperation. Just an idea.


Hugs!!!


Tiffany