Still civil, but I don't trust him
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| Thu, 01-25-2007 - 9:12am |
He's claiming poor. I asked him to pay the electric bill, car insurance and cell phone that he uses. He starts crying poor that with all of his "payments" if I wanted child support he'd be screwed.
Now I started out wanting to be very lenient. The story right now is he is living with his parents, stopped paying bills except for his car payment. He has no rent, no child care or child support (yet.) Then he has the nerve to tell me he had to borrow gas money to go to a job interview. He can barely pay his car payment and put gas in it (where is he driving to?)
Meanwhile, I'm starting over with rent, child care and all of my bills. I call BS! He's trying to either get my sympathy so I don't ask for child support or he's up to something worse. I asked twice to tell me where the money is going if he can't afford his car payment. He avoided answering twice. If he avoids it this time I'm calling him on it and going to domestic relations for child support. So much for trying to be nice to make it easier on him. He's coniving and I'll bet his brother is helping him hide the money.
Then he says he has a "suggestion" about the cars (since poor thing can't afford his)... but he doesn't want to say it because he's "afraid it will make me mad." My car is paid for... and he knows I love that car. I'm betting he's going to try to take it from me or con me out of it somehow. Well, he can forget it. I'm not taking on his payment when he can afford it... and have him try to weasel out of child support on top of it. I can barely make it without support (but I can make it thank God). I wasn't born yesterday.

Yep, sounds like some significant manipulation is going on. Take care of yourself and go to Family Relations court if necessary; no way should he get out of child support.
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and twice I have heard the secretary talk about a court date.....
they say she has so many cases she was mixed up. cause then she told me that no he doesnt go to court if we both come in and sign. well she may be mixed up but I am scared LOL
it is spose to be that we both go sign on Wed afternoon then it goes before the judge for final decree and no one goes to court.
Now I dont trust him again. I guess the worst that could happen is I wont get any retirement or my house. You know he swears that it doesnt go to court. gee what a mixed up secretary and attorney he has right? hmmmm
My son said he will totally disown him if he screws me over on this divorce by going to court and asking the judge for changes.
What made me think I could trust him? He has this OW skank to suggest to him how he can protect himself and I have allowed myself to sit here and be their victim.
I guess I will know in a few days. maybe. as now she says instead of a court date we go in Wed and both sign then the judge will probably ok it and its done.
are they lying or did she really get confused?
I guess even if the worst happens I can put all my things in storage and sleep on my moms couch. But how do I stop the revenge if he does this? what will keep me from telling the OW 's husband?
If he does go to court and our waiting period is up..........(yes today was the last day to contest) will I be notified of the court date? does anyone know?
I am so tired of this roller coaster he has put me on.
what can I say? I trusted him for 30 years and now he says he always loved her. wow maybe they have had an affair all these years and no one knew about it. good grief!