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| Thu, 02-09-2012 - 8:59pm |
My husband left nearly four years ago, after an almost 30 year marriage. A woman he met online moved in within 9 months later.
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I really feel for you. it has got to be really hard to have your marriage end after 30 years of marriage. What
It's time for you to move on. Yes, they are playing mean games with you, and that is not nice, but it doesn't look like you can control that. All you can do is change your reaction to it. And just think how much it must annoy the GF to have to hand you that check every month. I don't know what your interaction with her is like, but it sounds like he is a malicious manipulator. Treat her with sympathy and disdain.
The best revenge is a life well led, and that is what you have to figure out how to do. Are you active in your community or church? Are you taking care of yourself? Find some things that you enjoy and get activly involved.
As far as your daughter, just be open and available to her. If she is living with them, she is hearing that side of the story only. Give her time.
Keep us posted! You wil get a lot of good advice on here.
Do you think your ex would be willing to do direct deposit or does he just like being a jerk?
Mean people enjoy it when they win.
Sounds like there must be more to it than that. Why would she be ashamed of you? Do you think your ex is brain washing her or really bad mouthing you to her? Since talking to her isn't working, maybe you should write her a letter telling her that you don't understand her hostility towards you.
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