Still Sinking!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 02-01-2004
Still Sinking!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:19am

Yes it is me again! Complaining about how hard this is....


I am trying to do things as family to try and make this transition easier but it is really taking a toll on me. Here is my story in a nut shell... My STBX has been emotionally/verbally

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:20pm
Maybe it would be better if the 2 of you weren't together on visitation time w/ the kids--either he could take them out to McDonald's or something and bring them back home, or if they are little and there is some reason the visits have to take place in your house, then you go out, so you don't have to spend time w/ him.
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Registered: 12-19-2001
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 3:56pm

I agree with Musiclover 12.

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 10:17pm

Complain away--we're here for support for and from one another.


I have issues with "visitation" too. If you can even call it that. My STBX also comes to the house and thinks sitting around, not really doing anything with the kids or the house, makes things easier for me. Whatever. And he's living at a hotel, dragging his feet about getting an apartment, burning through money, so I don't really see him taking this visitation, or making a life with his kids, a priority. It's beyond maddening to me, especially when I dwell on it (which it's hard not to).


Hang in there! I hope things begin to improve for you.

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Registered: 03-24-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:36pm

"When do you not wake up feeling like throwing up or crying and when do you go to bed not being lonely?"


Little tough love here.

It's okay to jump...you have wings! 

To move forward...you have to stop looking back.