strange meeting

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2007
strange meeting
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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:36pm

Okay, I admit I have been lurking on a singles website lately considering joining.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 11:10am

Well, if you see him again.... be honest... :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:41pm
Thanks for the encouragement, I am really really, unsure about meeting people again, its hard to believe that I have to get out there again I was crappy at dating before I met my x now I have kids, no free time and the self confidence about dating that registers at negative 5.
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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 8:09am

Single,


Who says you "have to get out there (dating) again?"


I understand being lonely and feeling rejected whether your left or were left. I do encourage you to take time to breath and just be "single" for a while. It's not mandatory for you to date right now.


The silver lining inside of divorce is the gift of time and space you give yourself. Take the pressure off and relax. Do things YOU enjoy doing WHEN you enjoy doing them WITH people you enjoy being with. Don't worry about dating.


During the time between my separation and divorce I made a list of things I always wanted to do. My list had 36 items on it and not one was "date again." I didn't do everything on my list but it gave me a focus that I needed to help me heal from the pain of divorce. When I did date and eventually remarry I felt really good about who I was and who I had become. It also made me free of regrets as in, "Oh, gee, I wish I had done XXX before I started dating or remarried."


If you want to make new friends dust off those old hobbies or renew a favorite past time. There are reading clubs, outdoor clubs, sewing classes, etc.etc. etc. Find one and go do something you enjoy with others. The dating will take care of itself.


Best wishes.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020


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