Strange phone call

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Strange phone call
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 2:23pm

Late Monday night, the phone rang at 1.03 a.m. I'd been sleeping, so I figured I'd let the machine pick up, and if it was an emergency, then I'd answer it myself. I was half asleep, and it wasn't an emergency, so I only half-listened. It was a guy saying, "I'm Joe Blow (Not the name he gave). I'm opening a caning and seat weaving business. If you'd like to join forces with me, great, it not, I'm going to crush you. Call me at 555-555-5555", then he hung up. I didn't hear the entire message until I played it back Tuesday morning at 7:45 a.m. I was stunned to hear it! Needless to say, I took it as a threat, and called the local PD. They sent an officer out, and he listened to the message twice. He siad, "I didn't know the caning business is so cut-throat", and I said that it's usually litle old ladies with rocking chairs, and I'd never had that sort of message before. Especially at 1 in the morning!

Anyway, the officer did some investigating, and he found that the name and phone # do not match up. The phone # belongs to someone in a neighboring town, and he was trying to get in touch with that person to see if he had any info.

Well, I told STBX about the call, and he said that he himself had woken up at 1:03 that morning... he had DS staying with him that night, and also said that he hoped I didn't think he'd made the call, since it said "private number" on the caller ID, and his 3 numbers always show up. He also has been asking me about reconciling, and I have turned him down twice. Since the call, he sid, "You know if you need me around, I'm here." I'm not sure if the call is just a co-incidence, or if TSBX set it up to look like a hero y coming to my "rescue".

I called my lawyer a little while ago, and told her about the call. She thinks it's STBX, but she was going to do some investigating on her own, and will get back to me.

Any suggestions? I'll post any news about this.

Susie Y

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 3:08pm

I don't really have any suggestions. But I live in the state of Ohio and if you have a number that is listed and comes acrossed on caller ID's all you have to do to have the number blocked is dial *67-555-555-555. The number will then come up blocked call or private call. So, if I call someone from my cell and I don't want my number to appear I dail *67 before the number I am dialing.

So, if you can do this in your area anyone could have made the call.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:46pm
OMG that is very scary. I hope it was your STBX and shame on him if it was. Either way, I hope the police learn something through the investigation.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:59pm
Wow, that's freaky... No advice here. Sounds to me like you did the right things... Good luck and keep us posted.
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 8:28am

I hope it was STBX too or some kids playing a "joke"........


Hopefully they will find out what is happening....... sheesh, as if you needed this right now!


Hugs,


Angelena






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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 9:20am

Still no new info on who made the call... My mom doesn't think STBX made the call, but I know he really wants to come back home, and this *could* be a way to get me scared enough so that he could try to get his foot in the door. Then again, it could be someone totally unrelated. The thing is, in STBX's family they vent their frustrations through the telephone, with threatening calls (emails, in BIL's case), angry drunken calls, etc.

Tuesday, STBX stated that he thought that the lawyer and I were going to wipe the floor with him when we go to court on the 16th of August. A late night phone call could have been attempted to scare me. I'll see if there's any new info from the police or the lawyer.

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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 9:33am

From all you said it does sound like your STBX could be the guilty party. That is just more than horrible.

>>>Tuesday, STBX stated that he thought that the lawyer and I were going to wipe the floor with him when we go to court on the 16th of August.<<<

This is a very common fear for anyone in divorce and I think it's the #1 cause of highly adversarial divorce battles. It is true that often one person gets the upper hand and the other person is a big loser in the divorce, and that drives the fear that you might be the loser so you fight harder to win. The whole thing is sad because divorce shouldn't be about winning or losing, it should be about communication, respect and fairness (unless one person is a total nutjob or abusive, then communication, respect and fairness go out the window). Anytime one person is in the 'I'll screw her before she screws me' mentality, it's bad news.

To keep my divorce amicable, one thing I did was assure my ex over and over that I would not wipe the floor with him and I expected the same in return. I did things like when I talked to my attorney, I told my ex about what my attorney had said and I gave him a heads up what he would see in the draft divorce agreement so he wasn't sitting with his attorney suprised and confused and concerned. I think anyone faced with an ex who's worried about having the floor wiped with them should make every effort to alleviate that fear by talking about the concerns and addressing them. It will go a long way to reduce attorney's fees and make the whole process easier (again, unless the person is a nutjob or abusive, and even though if you STBX made that call he might fall in the nutjob category, I wouldn't give up on him yet).

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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 9:48am

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Exactly. I don't want to wipe the floor with him, I want what is fair to me and our children. Since he has ignored our home for years, he may feel that I'm wiping the floor with him, but I may perceive it as being fair. Tuesday, I told him that my main concern was saftey-- he thought I meant that I thought he was going to be violent towards us. I told him, "NO, it's not a matter of personal saftey, just safety in general." And that I couldn't discuss it further, and that I just wanted fairness. He isn't aware of the home inspection, so when he does find out on Tuesday, he may perceive that we're wiping the floor with him (I'm sure he will, he never takes responsibility for his own actions).

I was just thinking, why should I believe him at all? He's lied about his drinking-- when he was supposed to be sober, he was sneaking around drinking... among other things. He's really given me no reason to think he would be telling the truth. He also lies by omission, so... if it walks like a duck...

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:15pm
Any news on this????
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:22pm

Nope, nothing new, unfortunately. I'll call the officer tomorrow to see if he's learned anything. Thanks for asking.

Susie Y

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 2:39pm
Keep us updated!


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