Strong.... Filed a Police report
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| Thu, 07-28-2005 - 1:04pm |
My STBX stopped by to drop off child support. I'm really feeling proud of myself.
I was civilized to him while he was calling me names and etc. H wrote me the check and walked to his car all the way talking to me. He mentioned his sister and his mother. I asked him to get anger management and he told me that he didn't have an anger problem. I asked him to do it for the kids and he kept saying he didn't have an anger problem. When he was talking about his mother I told him I didn't think he should take the kids to his mother's because her abusive boyfriend lives there, his violent sister lives there because his sister got the crap kicked out of her by her boyfriend whom she is still seeing and he comes over to visit her now. Her boyfriend also uses meth. He asked me where I heard this and I told him I wasn't going to tell him and he volunteered that he knew I got it from my grandmother because he had told her... actually I didn't hear it from her. Then he walked back up the sidewalk. I telling him that we needed to sit down and talk about getting a divorce or we could go the lawyer route. He kept coming towards me, pointed his finger right in my face, and started yelling at me calling me more names. Then he stepped up to me like he was going to hit me. You know the motion I'm sure. The one where he thrusts his chest forward to prove he is all big and bad.... usually followed by him punching me. This time however it involved me walking in the house, locking the door, and calling the police. I filed a report. The officer told me if he comes on my property again I can have him arrested. He called me and I told him he was not to be near me again and I'm going to file for and R.O.
I'm just so proud of myself. I told him to drop the child support from now on off at my FIL's and I would pick it up there. Then I looked in the phone book and got a hold of a nice attorney who is willing to give me a reduced rate and help me with my divorce.
My mom filed a report previously about him hitting me because I couldn't get to the police.
I feel so good about things right now. I feel like I'm not afraid of him anymore and he can't control me anymore. I feel strong.

I'm glad your feeling stronger and making positive moves for yourself. Be proud of yourself!
-sang
Way to go!!!!!
I hope you've taken other safety measures like changing locks, alerting sitters, neighbors, checking window locks, etc. I just ask because sometimes abusive men snap when they get served with the official divorce documents.
He also can mail the check, ya know.
Take care and continue to be smart!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~