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| Tue, 10-31-2006 - 7:09pm |
For the last 10 months I have been trying to swallow anger, frustration and resentment with my STBX's gf. My ex has allowed her to be right in the middle of things, almost as a third parent. I have asked him to have her back off but he refuses. Until last Friday it was to the point where she refused to speak to me, but had the nerve to walk up my front door with my ex to pick up or drop off the kids. She'd just refuse to acknowledge my existence. This was annoying to no end. Wouldn't a rational person just wait in the damn car if she felt so strongly about avoiding me?
Well...last Friday I made a huge mistake, but the results have turned out rather well. I went to drop my daughter off at her dad's and asked his gf if I could speak to her for a minute. She mumbled okay, and then came outside and stood in front of me with her arms folded across her chest and a stern look on her face. I had wanted to try to clear the air, but I knew as soon as I saw her face that this was not going to work. I tried to talk to her, and she informed me that my ex had told her that I said she wasn't "allowed" to talk to me. There was more, and we even brought him out to clear it up and he admitted I hadn't exactly said that. He went back inside, and she and I continued to talk, but it went from bad to worse. It was just a fight. She assaulted my character, told me I was crazy and a liar, and blah blah blah. The fight ended with her saying I tried to control what she wore in front of my kids. (I haven't, but have stated I think she dresses like a skank and am horrified my ex has my kids around her) I said "Pff, no I haven't. It's a lost cause since we all know you can't keep your tits to yourself." (I know, HORRIBLE! but true...) She said "Are you saying this because you're unattractive?" I responded with "That's funny, I have had several people tell me you look like a man."
Although I'm not proud of saying what I did, I am happy with the results. On Sunday when they dropped the kids off, she said a quick goodbye to the kids AT THE CAR and got back inside. Monday she did the same. This is what I wanted all along. I'm so happy she's backed the hell off of me.

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If any man tells me that I'm not allowed to answer the door at the home where I reside... I'd be kicking his butt to the curb :-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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