Such an idiot

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Registered: 01-23-2007
Such an idiot
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 11:41am
Well I talked to my sbxh, today. I haven't spoken to him, in 2 weeks. I had to ask him a questions about my things. I asked how he was doing.....He has a new girlfriend of 2 months, and he's taking her on a trip, and to meet his parents. Needless to say this caused me great pain. I asked though. Why do I keep asking about his life? I keep inflicting pain on myself. I miss him, but I'm getting better.....but then I talk to him, I can't just ask a question, and go on. I ask him about her. We've always been really honest with each other, so when I ask he tells. I want to be able to say hello, once in awhile. Is that a bad thing. Please, and advice would be helpful. Do I cut communication off, completly?
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Registered: 12-21-2006
In reply to: pink331
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 12:16pm
It seems most of what I have read says the best way to heal is NO CONTACT~!
My husband just divorced me for another woman. He is still here for twomore weeks and we have had sex and it breaks my heart and I dont know why I am doing it. He also wants to be friends but seriously I dont think I can this time. We married three times.......we would split then still see each other. an addictive relationship for sure.
I think you could be friends down the road with him, someday but if I were you I would have NO CONTACT at all if there are no children. at least till you heal then see later how you feel.
good luck I know this is very very painful........but you can do it!
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Registered: 01-23-2007
In reply to: pink331
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 12:54pm
As I sit here, I continue to think of everything he said, and he sounds so happy. I feel like, that's supposed to be me, not her. I do miss him, and still love him so much, even after what's happened. I miss everything, my life, my husband, my step-son. Why did this have to happened. Why couldn't I of listened to anyone. I feel like I've grown up over the last two years. Why couldn't I of done it, when I had my husband, why did it take losing him, to figure out I needed to grow up. I feel horrible, that I will never have the chance to be with him again!
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Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: pink331
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 5:03pm

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 02-06-2007
In reply to: pink331
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 9:54pm
The answer is YES!