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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:58pm

Those of you who don't know my situation, my stbx left this state in March and has only seen the children once for a 6 hour visit. He was never abusive toward them, but would neglect them.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 9:01pm

Hi Melanie.

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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 9:17am

Hi Melanie,

Well, I am sure you know my feelings on this already. :) Being with their dad for some time would probably be good for them, as it would also be a break for you. I know you would miss them terribly over that period of time, but maybe it would not have to be the whole summer. Possibly just half of it, or a couple of months?

I don't think your judgement is clouded at all. If you were letting a really bad father have them just so you could have a break -- that's one thing. But he does love them and it would be good for both him and the kids.

Just my two cents..

Eric

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Registered: 03-11-2004
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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 1:33pm
Melanie, I too spent summers and Xmas vacation with my Dad. It was the only time I got to see him. Let your kids go. You need the time for you to rejuvinate. Think how much better a Mom you will be with a little rest under your belt. I would make it clear to your ex that it is both kids, the entire time. This summer do 1 month, next do 2. You'll all be better for it. Good Luck with this. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda