Super Loser Ex

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Super Loser Ex
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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:39pm

Does anyone else have a loser ex husband who threatens to quit their job and live at home with a low paying job rather than pay you child support?

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Registered: 12-15-2006
In reply to: jenn1018
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:44pm

From what I understand in my state, SC, they base child support on what the non-custodial parent is CAPABLE of making. If he held down a good job while you were with him and then just quits, his child support will be based on what he made. I learned that when my ex did the same thing.

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Registered: 02-15-2007
In reply to: jenn1018
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 11:35pm

Oh Jenn - If this is a contest of super loser exes,

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Registered: 09-04-2003
In reply to: jenn1018
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 4:02am
Oh yes. I had a husband who decided he would stay home and watch movies all day and play with the dog while I went to work. I thought the phase would pass but it never did, so after a lavish Catholic wedding and reception with all my professional colleagues and friends I called off the marriage after only 3 months. Horribly embarrassing. He tried to take MY house that I had owned for 5 years and eventually went away and moved in with his mommy. Never thought a college educated man would want to mooch off a woman, but that was the case. It was final in August but I am still so embarrassed because of the size of the wedding and the "I told you sos" I have been getting. It makes me feel like I have no judge of character. My new requirement is that a man has to have a career. Period. I am sorry your ex is trying to extort money from you, but I was there too. And I am a successful woman and thought I was smart. Be strong and get a lawyer.
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Registered: 06-20-2007
In reply to: jenn1018
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 10:11pm
too bad there are many of those types out there. Super losers, I was married to one. He just was bad in so many ways I cringe just thinking about him and getting awayfrom him was like getting out of jail. Hand in there and things will get better. You have one less child to take care of with him gone.
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Registered: 03-31-2006
In reply to: jenn1018
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:14am

The embarrasement would have been if you had stayed with him for 16 years like I did.

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Registered: 04-30-2007
In reply to: jenn1018
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:20pm
It seems he would want to look out for the kids. I know courts order child support they are usually capable of paying. If he quit his job willfully, tell him the court would find out and they probably would not be happy to hear that.