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talking more now than before
| Wed, 04-09-2008 - 10:52am |
I find that DH & I are talking more now than we did when we were supposedly trying to keep the marriage together.

Well, in most cases when you are married.... it's joint debt reguardless of who actually used the card... especially if it was used for things that he had advantage of (like the vacations.... and he *should have known* that even the self employed have to pay taxes).
Keep validating that it's an "agreement".
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I was really annoyed when I heard that the atty told him that he shouldn't move out of the house before we had an agreement cause he would give up his "rights."
Could it be that the pressure to "save" the marriage is gone, so now some of his individual pressure is alleviated?
Dear Rachel:
If you mean, does he think we might get back together, I think the answer is no.
Liz,
I had the house until the kids were 18, at which time we were to sell it and split the profit. We moved before then, so we split it before that eventuality happened. It worked out very well. There really was no "tying" of us together. Joint ownership of the house was just not an issue until we moved. I think it would be a good option for you, so long as you could afford the payments. I wouldn't try to sell a house right now anyway. It would be in everyone's interest for you to wait a while.
I also think a mediator is a great idea. Everyone feels heard, no one feels victimized, and you might actually be able to do it on the cheap.
FYI, my divorce, which included custody of two children, child support, and division of assets (house, cars, pensions, etc.) cost UNDER $1000.00.
Cat
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Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
I just have to tell you, on the fix it up mode, my DH works in Building maintenance and I have more projects backed up at home than you can shake a stick at!!
Our high school has a vocational dept. which actually repaired Abigail Adams' birthplace, which is near my house.
With my 1st DH, he agreed that I should live in the house w/ the kids until the youngest was 18.
The talking is simply the release of stress that has been bearing down on both of you.
It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.