tears that won't stop

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Registered: 02-16-2007
tears that won't stop
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Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:08pm
It has been a year since my husband left, we are in the process of a divorce. He just came and honked the horn for the kids to go with him to my sister in laws for a BBQ. Since they elft, I can't help but sit here and cry, we should all be together going as a family. Instead he chose to cheat- leave his family and never ever fight for us. I watched from the kitchen window as the kids waved good bye- I don't speak to my husband.
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Registered: 12-19-2001
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:47pm

I know, it's very hard watching the kid(s) leave to go to gatherings that you used to be a part of.

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Registered: 07-04-2008
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 4:25pm
I to know the feeling my husband said hes filing for divorce he also was cheating and we work together and this is so hard most of all I had no clue. we work together and was always together when we were off. He said it happen when I would work overtime in which we always split I would work 6 hour then he would work the other six. I t hurts so bad I am on vacation this week but next week I have to go back to work and we run the same machines together.
sign hurt and shock
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Registered: 06-09-2008
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 7:31am
I understand what you're going through.
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Registered: 06-06-2008
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 6:23pm

It is so strange-when I worked full time-attended grad-did all household chores. I hated weekends because everyone else could go out and "play" but as Cinderella I had my chores to do. That has certainly changed into truly hating holidays.


Now that I am about 8 mo. into the divorce from hell and retired, I have all day everyday to do whatever and it is so painful. I am ebarrassed to be depressed about memorial day flag day-then July 4th-in essence every holiday is so dreaded. We as a couple were pretty ambivalent about flag day and memorial day

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Registered: 10-19-2003
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 8:37pm

You are right about these special occasion days that never really mattered before. Luckily I spent the day

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 6:56am

Hi,


Divorce sucks. Just plain and simple, it's one of the worst forms of rejection you'll ever experience. So, I won't tell you not to cry. It's part of the grieving process we all endure.


One thing you need to realize is this:

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 02-16-2007
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 10:17am

Hi ,


Thank you all for posting. It really made me feel better to know I am not alone. And I will listen to all

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Registered: 07-06-2008
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 7:45pm

I am recently divorced and my ex took his new sweetie, the one he cheated on my with, to our vacation home and she is sleeping in

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Registered: 07-06-2008
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 11:32pm
I am so sorry you feel terrible. I cried for six months solid after my mate of 19 years left--out of the blue. We share two children, and I found myself unable to care for them properly. Couldn't work. Had friends coming in to get me through. Finally I sought professional help. I have a lot to figure out: who I was before the relationship, the mistakes I made, who I am now. I am still terribly sad at times, but at least I have stopped crying tears that won't stop. Don't hesitate to talk to a professional. I now look forward to it and have a better