Telling your parents

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Telling your parents
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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 4:25pm
This is the first time on this message board. My husband of 12 years (almost 20 years together) and I are close to separating. No cheating, we've grown apart, he's in a midlife crises, isn't in love with me anymore, and doesn't know if he even wants to try to work on our marriage. He knows I want to try and make it work. We've been unhappy for quite some time and are probably delaying a separation because of our 6 and 4 year old sons. I've read a lot about telling children, but how do you tell your parents??? My parents have been together for 42 years. I'm an only child. When and how do I tell them? It's not clear if a separation will help our marriage or lead us down the road towards divorce. Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you!
Will and Sam's mom
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 7:25pm

Personally I would wait until you are sure about what is going to happen, if you have a good support system otherwise. Before when my husband and I were having problems we told our families way too soon, they all got involved and said things to us(his to me, mine to him) then when we worked it out, they were still concerned about each of us and things definitely changed for how they viewed us.

We waited until we were absolutely sure it was going to happen this time before we told them. We had been "seperated" almost 2 months before we told them.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:44am

I really struggled about telling my parents, but to my suprise, they were very understanding and supportive.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~