Temp. orders, what can i do ...

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Registered: 05-07-2006
Temp. orders, what can i do ...
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 11:09pm

ok, i haven't posted in a while because mediation last week was a fiasco & it's taken me a week to just absorb the shock and awe of it. as usual, STBX continues to get his way, and now wants to fight me for FULL custody despite disconnecting himself from his sons totally since early june?!!

anyhow, we finally hashed out a "temp. order," which included not having any guests of opposite sex engage in overnight stays, and of course, what does STBX do ... take our sons to austin where skank GF is, and they stay in her home, overnight?!!! although STBX claims she wasn't there ... yeah, right, you go out of town with sons and stay in her home, and you don't "lay up with her" while our sons are there?!!

i am FURIOUS!! i really don't know how i'm going to be able to get over the fact that my sons are being introduced and integrated into this adulterous relationship amid a custody battle wherein they are already struggling with our divorce and now THIS?!! he will just do anything to hurt me & that skank could care less, too!! in fact, she's probably just beside herself thinking she's got STBX and now his kids, too, despite my best wishes to shield them from this. ... it's tooo much!! what can i do to get through this, to feel like this skank is not taking my place and to help navigate my sons through this morass, and their careless, selfish father's behavior.

help!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 8:47am

That is so frustrating when they do stuff like that.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-02-2006
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 9:00am
I so feel your pain and will keep you in my prayers.
I'm about to schedule my mediation, with just about the same scenario as you...stbx moved from NJ to DE to be w/ow and is living w/her...he now wants overnights with our 5 year old...I'm so worried that he'll be scared, strange house, strange woman, strange kid(s)...my son doesn't even know that this other woman exists and now he's supposed to go and stay in her home with his daddy??? an hour and a half away...maybe I'm over-reacting, but hopefully someone with power will see that this is NOT the best scenario...let me know how you progress...
HUGS
Lisa
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 9:55am

Karen is right - if you continue to show the boys normallcy & love & decency with YOU< they will see.


& it IS infuriating. What are your options with this?


1. Charge him with contempt (b/c he IS in contempt!) but cost yourself a bunch of $ to do it AND take the chance a judge wont really care


2. End up having to have your kids "tell" the truth about if she was there or not ... & put them in a horrible position.


(((sorry!)))

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