Ten Good Things about my husband leaving
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| Sun, 07-17-2005 - 8:02pm |
I have been told by numerous wise women around here to think positively about my divorce and my life so today I am going to start with "ten good things about my husband leaving".I wish any of you to do the same with me. I know I will be able to learn a lot by reading others thoughts on this. Please post even if you were the one who filed. I need to see the good in this. Also I want to thank all of you who responded to my post below. Hugs to All of You!
1. I get a whole queen sized bed to myself. I love it!
2. More quality time with my children. Time I obviously wasted fussing over him.
3. I bought myself a recliner that he would have never allowed. It's beautiful. He would have hated it.
4. No more listening to "That's not how my mother does it."
5. I can go to bed when I want too. Don't have to wait up for him.
6. No more piles of his junk everywhere. He's a pile person and I hated it.
7. I don't have to make a full meal every night. The boys are content to eat PB&J, chips, and apple sauce that they cook themselves.
8. No more worrying if he is in a ditch dead somewhere. He never could call to tell me he was going to be late.
9. I can listen to my music whenever and however loud I like without him coming in to turn it down.
10. Less Laundry!!!!!!Yeah!
Hugs, Brenda

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That's awesome, but I have a list of my own!
1. Don't have to clean up after his stupid a$$.
2. Don't have to hear him complain that he hates every single job he ever gets.
3. Don't have to give him money or let him con me out of money so he can buy drugs.
4. Don't have to work hard all day and know that I will come home to him sitting on the
couch or surfing the internet while the kids are running wild and the house is a mess.
5. Don't have to tolerate his family anymore and shake my head and think "no wonder he
is the way he is".
6. Don't have to make excuses for him anymore and explain to my family why he isn't at
our family gatherings.
7. Don't have to support him financially anymore. He is his new GF's problem now. I'll
let her deal with him now.
8. And most importantly. I don't have to go to bed every night, and wake up everyday
absolutely frustrated, angry, and distraught over my life. That is over now!!
There are more, but I think this is enough and you get the idea. Life IS GOOD!!
10. Easier to get kids to help out because they don't see him telling me it doesn't have to get done.
9. Not sleeping next to someone that doesn't shower all weekend (or brush their teeth)
8. No dirty work clothes on the floor
7. no more junk in the basement because he's too lazy to get rid of it or keeps bringing home "treasures" from the job site.
6. No more "it doesn't have to get done on your timetable"
5. no more getting crap for going out because he only wants to sit around and watch ESPN all the time.
4. no more listening to his dumb sports radio where the announcers don't realize that there are actually more important things in the world
3. No more adding up his debit card receipts and finding no money left to pay bills.
2. The bed and all the pillows to myself.
1. No more of his fake affection so he can get sex and then back to ignoring me after BS.
Oh I couldn't resist this one....
1) I can arrange furniture and do what I want with the house in record time. Doing things with XH ALWAYS took the WHOOOOOOOLE day, even if it was just moving a picture from one wall to the other.
2) I can eat what I want, healthy! He liked JUNK.
3) I don't stink like cigarettes and my kids aren't sick every other day because of it.
4) I don't have to put up with him putting work before his wife and child.
5) I can spend time with people I love and not feel guilty that I am leaving him home. He never liked to be with anyone other than us, preferred to stay home and watch movies all day rather than going out and doing fun stuff. Even if I went to the mall with a friend and left him home with our son, he would call me on the cell phone "When are you coming home?"
6) I don't feel alone.
7) I don't have to clean up after him.
8) I don't have to put up with his hording problem. He picks things up anywhere and thinks it's gold and stores it in the basement. When I moved, I filled the front yard with all his useless crap.
9) I don't feel last in comparison with his computer.
10) I don't have to keep thinking " why can't it be like it was in the first couple of years we were together "..... I am happy with TODAY.
I could keep going.....hehe.
This is great!
1.) Queen size bed to myself with tons of pillows and no snoring!
2.) No more hearing him complain that I'm always busy and why can't I relax then 2 minutes later complaining that the house is a mess!
3.) No more watching him spend more time on my daughters PlayStation2 then she does!
4.) I can watch what he called "stupid chick flicks" all night long!
5.) No more wondering where he is when he disappears for hours on end and then having to listen to his so very stupid explanations when he does finally find his way home.
6.) I can go to a function without worrying that he is going to embarrass me by either ignoring everyone or offending people.
7.) I can make all the plans I want w/o him telling me I worry too much about the future and I should "live day to day". Hello! 2 kids, full time job, day to day? Is he nuts?
8.) No more hearing him tell me EVERYDAY how tired he his!
9.) Listening to Kids Bob with my girls while we eat dinner and then singing and dancing around the living room with them, laughing without him picking apart the songs.
10.) Making plans for me and kids based on what WE want do and not having him tag along and complain the entire time.
Like a noose has been removed from my neck.
Great for seeing the glass as "half full"...
Let's see--my contribution is
1) No more disgusting body noises which only HE thought hilarious!
2) I got a new soft mattress just to my liking--and a great night's sleep.
3) No more sports on TV constantly.
4) Not getting woken up at an ungodly hour in the morning.
5) No more ridicule!
6) No more "short jokes".
7) No more "road rage" driving fears--still worry about the kids though.
8) I can spend my own money without fear of the 3rd degree.
9) I don't have to iron shirts any more cause "I do it better than the cleaners".
10) THE BIGGIE--FREEDOM!!!!!!!
10 from a lurker who filed...
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
yippie!!! time for the TEN GOOD THINGS list!!!
1. no snoring
2. no smelly body next to me
3. no wet towels all over the bathroom floor. for that matter, no more ANYTHING all over the house anymore
4. no inane conversations about.... nothing at all.
5. no having to protect my DS from him
6. no life that revolves around HIM
7. no piles of toe nails all over the house
8. no having to give up going places or having people over because he is 'depressed'
Hugs, Brenda
Reading the responses to this post really made me laugh and see the positive side of things. I didn't realize how good I've got it right now.
1) I get to sleep in the middle of my queen-sized bed and don't have to worry about him drooling all over the pillows every night. I even bought pink sheets!
2) I don't have to pull my young sons to the side after my STBX has made some nasty remark to me and tell them that daddy is not supposed to talk to mommy that way.
3) I get the remote!
4) Now I can stay up late reading in bed with every light on. It used to drive him crazy.
5) No more of his dirty underwear laying around on the floor. Yuck!
6) I don't have to wonder where he is, who he is with , or when he is coming home.
7) I can talk on the phone with my friends and not have to worry about him being rude to them or making crude jokes.
8) No more worrying about him spending all of the family money on cars and clothes so that he can show off to everyone. He has received enough "husband" support from me over the years. Now the kids finally get to benefit from his income.
9) No more worrying about whether or not he is going to spend time with me and the kids. When we go out now, he's not invited.
10) Finally having peace in my house.
This was fun!!!
Brenda, this rocks! I've had so much fun just reading this thread! But adding my bit nonetheless. Ten good things about leaving the ex:
1) No Eeyore figure to 'bring me back to reality' when I'm optimistic or happy.
2) No smell of nasty gas from someone who didn't think anyone would notice. Toilets are usually flushed.
3) Mornings are quiet. Footsteps are light and doors open and close quietly.
4) When I need to go somewhere, I know where my car is!
5) It's now assumed that when I buy groceries and supplies I will spend money.
6) My opinions are my own.
7) Meals in the kitchen and the computer in the living room, not vice versa.
8) I can dress for hot weather and not feel self-conscious.
9) I open the shades even when the TV is on.
10) I cook, clean, and do laundry for only three now.
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