This is terrible.....

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Registered: 03-06-2005
This is terrible.....
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Sun, 04-03-2005 - 8:22am

Hi Ladies.


I'm having a hard time here.....


Every night I have dreams about the ex. Now I am thinking I miss him.....if you can believe that. Why else would I be dreaming about him? I don't understand it, I am with someone else now and happy, but why am I still dreaming about my ex and thinking about him?


AHHHHHHHHHH


Angelena



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Registered: 03-28-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 11:38am
Hey there
I am so sorry that you are having those dreams...i have them every night too, and it doesn't help me deal well in the daytime because I can't sleep for an hour or sometimes more afterwards and i end up drained in the morning. it's really frustrating and i never would have believed how upset it could make me if someone had just told me about it. i wish i knew what to say to make it better. i know that if i take a shower before bed, write in my journal and remind myself of the good things, have a cup of tea and read...in a nutshell take my time unwinding before bed, it has helped one or two nights over the last week. I still had the dreams, but they were better and i only had one each night instead of all night long. i'm hoping that with time they will start to fade altogether.
i hope it gets better soon...hugs to you
Bridget
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 11:44am

Thank you so much for your kind words.


I don't know what happened! I feel like I am taking about 30 steps backwards. Sometimes I have "dreams" and sometimes they are just normal everyday stuff. I don't know why all of a sudden this started, but sheesh! Someone turn off the switch please ;)


If my SO knew about this he would be so hurt.


ugh..... I will try to do the wind down thing before bed. Thank you for the suggestions.


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Registered: 03-28-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 11:54am
i hope they stop just as suddenly as they started....let me know how it goes
bridget
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 5:11pm

I think that sometimes we dream about "what we wanted".... what we'd hoped for.


Of course... a few nights ago I was dreaming about trying to help many people in many different ways (physically and emotionally) and I just couldn't do it all (sounds like my life in a nutshell!)


I don't think that all dreams necessarily represent the present or most recent happenings..... like dreaming about past good things before they got... not good.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 5:17pm

I'm happy to report last night....... da da daaaaaaaaaaaaa, no DREAM!!! WOOHOO!


Of course, I didn't sleep either....haha.


Thanks for the great advice once again Karen ;)


Hugs,


Angelena



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 7:08pm
When I was with my STBX I would constantly have dreams about my previous boyfriend (who I was with for almost 6 years and engaged to), but I really didn't want to go back to this guy so it bothered me so much why I was having these dreams. It took years for me to stop having the dreams, and once I did, I realized I was finally over my ex, but it took a long time, we had a very bad breakup and it was extremely hard for me. Then I was with my husband for almost 6 years as well and we just got separated a few months ago. I have a new boyfriend and so far I haven't had the dreams about STBX but I think about him ALL the time!!! Now- and this still blows me away- I got a phone call yesterday conpletely out of the blue from my ex boyfriend- the first one! He hasn't called me for over 5 years- almost 6 now! It was so strange cause I had just found some old photos of us together when I was going through some boxes and then not even an hour later he phoned me! I was surprised he even had my number still. We talked like we were old friends, but it was so strange!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 9:12pm

B/C your mind is an intricate thing ... & difficult to understand. If this helps, I dreamt i had sex w/ THE meanest most DESPISED doc at work ... & BELEIVE ME .... there is NO WAY in real life i would want that!


HUGS

R~

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