Testifying agains stbxh today...yuck!

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Testifying agains stbxh today...yuck!
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 7:48am
I have to drive a full hour away and sit in on the divorce hearing of my stbxh adultery partenrs. I read incriminating emails between my stbxh and her and her husband says that if I come down and testify that he will give me copies of all the dirt he has on them for my hearing. It is disgusting. I feel like Jerry Springer is going to pop out of a closet at any moment! I am going to have to face my stbxh and his filthy whore. Yuck! Literally, she is a whore, she told her stbxh she would sleep with him if he would refrain from contacting me! And this whore interacts with my children. Because, of her and my husbands selfishness, my children now think it is perfectly okay to run out on your family and that marriage means nothihing! That tears at my soul! Well, I will let ya'll know how things go. I am going to try and refrain from speaking to anyone, if at all possible...will simply answer the judges questions and get the hell out of there.
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Registered: 01-01-2007
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 8:38am

Good luck today. Just keep your shoulders high and your chin up. You can make it through it. May your guardian angel sit on your shoulder and guide you through your testimony today. Keep us posted. . .

Becka

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 8:49am

Is there a really really good friend who can go with you and lend support and fend off folks you don't want to talk to? Of course you may not want a good friend to hear what is going to be said, but if you have someone who could come with you I would think it would help alot.

I am so sorry your dear children have to be exposed to this ow. Yes, isn't selfishness what alot of this divorce stuff is about.

Will the other wronged party testify at your hearing?

GL -- hope it goes as well as possible.

M

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Wed, 03-21-2007 - 9:17am
Thanks guys. I am really okay. I'm just going to look my best and spit out what I need to. The other wronged party says he will gladly testify for me. My stbxh doesn't care about the charge though, he is not denying or trying to hide anything. I don't think we will need to go to trial because, he has admitted to everything and we are negotiating a deal that serves me pretty well...it ain't over till the money is in the bank though!
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 5:00pm
Well, I did it. I plastered a big smile on my face, held my head high and went in and made a statement about all the dirty emails I read, incriminating my huband and the adulteress whore. The four of us were there and it was SO bizarre. So, the OW and her husband are divorced. They waived the 10 days. Wish I was!!! I had a lovely chat with the OW's stbx (at that time - was before the hearing) about the Volvo overseas delivery program and I couldn't remember what type of hotel Volvo puts you up in so, I sweetly turned to my husband and asked him if he remembered what type it was. He mumbled something about not remembering...would have been comical if it wasn't so sad. He couldn't even look me in the eye. She was really ickey, I'm much younger and more attractive by far so that was a real shocker. I mean I knew she couldn't possibly be a classy lady but, jeeezzz, she had a brassy bad blonde dyejob and was in need of a haircut and was crack whore skinny and her make-up made her look very pastey. She makes good money though, he has deffinitely taken that into account. In court I'd make eye contact with her and smile as she passed me by which apparently bothered her because, the last time she passed me she made a little snort! Lovely, person. I know, I'm a real bitch for being so superficial but, I don't really care! Just glad that is behind me, too bad I have my own crap to be getting on with. There is still plenty of work to be done there.
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 11:31pm

I'm glad you survived the ordeal. Great job to you. Just remember that each day that passes brings you more resolve and more strength to do what is necessary for you and your children. Best of Luck and God Bless.

Becka