Thank you for praying for her. I forgot to add to earlier post that I am thankful for this board. I have not posted here much, but I come here every night when I get home from work to check on everyone. It helps me just to know that I am not alone. This board has helped me through so much already. And I have learned from so many of you. Thank you to all of you. I will pray for your sister, I can only imagine how your feeling. My friend and I have known each other since we were 13 years old. It's been 20 years and I can't imagine my life without her. She has always been my strength, so now it's my turn to be her strength. I am thankful that I am able to be there for her now.
I'm thankful for all the ways I've been blessed that I sometimes take for granted-good family, friends, being born in a country where I can take freedom and good healthcare for granted. I'm also thankful for the little frivolous things in my life... like a Sunday I can wear my pj's all day and curl up on the couch with the kitties and watch movies.
I'm thankful that I'm moving aheah with this separation / divorce. The kids and I have been living under horrible stress for far too long. It'll be nice to have some peace.
I'm thankful that I found this board! :-)
I'm thankful that I have some friends to talk to about DH and all the problems we've had.
I'm thankful that my health is improving, albeit agonizingly slowly! (I won't say too much about that-- I don't wna to jinx it!)
It's great you thought of this. Because we do get caught up in all the negative emotions. I did a post earlier and just want to pass this on: All of you check out Divorce Magazine.com. It has some amazing articles on dealing with all the things we have all gone through. It was that along with my girls at ivillage that helped me get to where im headed now. I know I will ofcourse still be challenged and it wont be easy all the time but Im doing it. Ive even lost a couple of pounds and plan on continuing along that path.
For so long I thought if I forgave him, it meant that I was letting him get off the hook for what he did and I just couldnt bear that thought. I wanted him to feel guilty, hurt etc. All the pain I was feeling. But it's my pain to deal with, I feel it, that's all that matters. I always connected myself with his feelings. Not realizing I am my own person. Im slowly reversing that now. 1 day at a time.
You know what else Im thankful for: Learning that I am strong afterall and I have made it without him.
I've always had a problem with the notion of "forgiveness." For me, to forgive implies forgiving, forgetting, and giving the person a second chance. Also, to receive forgiveness I feel the person should fully acknowledge their guilt and be truly sorry. So how could I possibly forgive? For me, getting over the past was more about accepting what happened, and letting go of the anger and the bitterness.
yay, good idea! i am so thankful for my son, i didn't know i could love someone so much and it gets bigger every day. thank god he is healthy and happy and dealing with this mess ok. i am thankful for the baby on the way, and that everything looks to be healthy with him, despite all the stress i've been under. i am so lucky to have another son on the way.
i'm thankful for my dear friends who listen to me complain and cry at all hours of the day and night.
i'm thankful for my parents and brother and the unconditional love they give me.
i'm thankful to everyone i've met here on this board, your thoughts and support, not just for me but for everyone else give me a tremendous amount of hope and comfort.
and right now, i feel like i can say i'm actually thankful for my stbx. as much as he is hurting me right now, he gave me my two boys, the most amazing things in the world. and i know that he'll never abandon them like my dad did to me when my parents got divorced. i dont like him very much, but i know that things could be a lot worse and i know he is trying hard to be fair to me most of the time. he's only human too.
I am most thankful for my daughter. She is the true love of my life. Although she is just 20 months, she makes me realize just how much a smile and a hug can do to brighten your day.
I am also fairly new to this board. I am very thankfull for all of you. Like most of us, I have had my share of ups and downs. This is a good place to help me keep my "ups" going!
I am thankfull for my family and friends. Without them, I would not have had the strength to stand up and say enough is enough and file for divorce. They have been my rock when my "downs" start to get to me.
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I am thankful for a bunch of stuff...
I'm thankful that I'm moving aheah with this separation / divorce. The kids and I have been living under horrible stress for far too long. It'll be nice to have some peace.
I'm thankful that I found this board! :-)
I'm thankful that I have some friends to talk to about DH and all the problems we've had.
I'm thankful that my health is improving, albeit agonizingly slowly! (I won't say too much about that-- I don't wna to jinx it!)
Great thread. Brought a smile to my face. :-)
Susie
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
It's great you thought of this. Because we do get caught up in all the negative emotions. I did a post earlier and just want to pass this on: All of you check out Divorce Magazine.com. It has some amazing articles on dealing with all the things we have all gone through. It was that along with my girls at ivillage that helped me get to where im headed now. I know I will ofcourse still be challenged and it wont be easy all the time but Im doing it. Ive even lost a couple of pounds and plan on continuing along that path.
For so long I thought if I forgave him, it meant that I was letting him get off the hook for what he did and I just couldnt bear that thought. I wanted him to feel guilty, hurt etc. All the pain I was feeling. But it's my pain to deal with, I feel it, that's all that matters. I always connected myself with his feelings. Not realizing I am my own person. Im slowly reversing that now. 1 day at a time.
You know what else Im thankful for: Learning that I am strong afterall and I have made it without him.
I've always had a problem with the notion of "forgiveness." For me, to forgive implies forgiving, forgetting, and giving the person a second chance. Also, to receive forgiveness I feel the person should fully acknowledge their guilt and be truly sorry. So how could I possibly forgive? For me, getting over the past was more about accepting what happened, and letting go of the anger and the bitterness.
yay, good idea!
i am so thankful for my son, i didn't know i could love someone so much and it gets bigger every day. thank god he is healthy and happy and dealing with this mess ok.
i am thankful for the baby on the way, and that everything looks to be healthy with him, despite all the stress i've been under. i am so lucky to have another son on the way.
i'm thankful for my dear friends who listen to me complain and cry at all hours of the day and night.
i'm thankful for my parents and brother and the unconditional love they give me.
i'm thankful to everyone i've met here on this board, your thoughts and support, not just for me but for everyone else give me a tremendous amount of hope and comfort.
and right now, i feel like i can say i'm actually thankful for my stbx. as much as he is hurting me right now, he gave me my two boys, the most amazing things in the world. and i know that he'll never abandon them like my dad did to me when my parents got divorced. i dont like him very much, but i know that things could be a lot worse and i know he is trying hard to be fair to me most of the time. he's only human too.
I am most thankful for my daughter. She is the true love of my life. Although she is just 20 months, she makes me realize just how much a smile and a hug can do to brighten your day.
I am also fairly new to this board. I am very thankfull for all of you. Like most of us, I have had my share of ups and downs. This is a good place to help me keep my "ups" going!
I am thankfull for my family and friends. Without them, I would not have had the strength to stand up and say enough is enough and file for divorce. They have been my rock when my "downs" start to get to me.
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