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| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 10:42am |
Thanks guys, for being so supportive.
Just wanted to give you an update: I went to dinner with an old friend of mine who worked with my husband until about a week after my arrest, and she gave me some enlightening information. Seems he came very close to being sued for sexual harrassment at work because he continued to pat a female co-worker on the back or shoulder after she had asked him not to touch her. I know he didn't mean anything by it; that's just how he is, but it's scary to think she was considering filing a complaint and look at what the girls and I stand to lose if he's sued! And he doesn't even know what she was considering.
My friend also told me that once, while he was at her home "helping" her husband with yard work, etc., at their new home, (see, he does it all the time) she asked him how he got along with my parents. She knows he doesn't make much money, and since I've been staying home with the kids, she realized my parents must have helped us a LOT. He rolled his eyes, and said, "As far as Julie knows, we get along just fine. Peachy!" She said he came across as being really ungrateful and sarcastic. This, too, has been a problem through the years. But I din't realize he was going around expressing this to other people, especially someone he didn't know that well.
She also told me he'd been meddling in their business, encouraging her husband to buy a truck when they just don't have the money. And he asked her husband to come and help him with some odd jobs around our house, offered to pay him, saying, "I know you could use the money." My God, WE could use the money! There have been times when I've had to raid the change jar just to go buy milk for our daughters! And he thinks he can pay somebody to come do things that HE should be taking care of?!
Anyway, our conversation continued for a couple of hours, and by the end of the evening my decision was cemented in my mind. I am going to proceed with the divorce. I simply cannot live with him any more after all that's happened, and I know that having him back in our home would create an unhealthy environment for our girls. Being out of favor with God is just something I will have to deal with, and if He truly wants me to keep the kids in this situation, I will just have to pray that He'll forgive me for what I do.
I think all my meds are finally working because I have been able to talk about this without crying at all for the past 2 days, and I can think more clearly without acting on emotional impulses.
Thanks so much for all your prayers and support!
Julie
