is there any hope?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2004
is there any hope?
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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 8:29am

Hi,its been a year since am fighting for my marriage.my husband is still seeing other woman and has told me that it will not get sorted out.the other woman is not leaving him and has not told her about our reconcilation.If he tells her then she will take revenge and make his life hell.

so finally he started looking for a job in different country.he talked in front of me for a job.only improvement i can see is he picks up all my calls now.for the first time he stayed at home on weekened.
its me who is doing and forcing things on him.he just doesnt call me in whole day.

do you think i should stay and see how things go?how do i make him call me and be more loving?

thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 12:52pm

hi and hugs....


i'm sorry for what you are going thru, but to be honest - it doesn't sound much like a reconciliation with YOU, if he is seeing another woman. i mean - he is having his cake and eating it too, if you know what i mean. and he is not even taking responsibility for himself - he is blaming HER - that its because of HER that he can't break it up with her...


you can't MAKE him "call you and be more loving". he is choosing to be with another woman. and now, because you are 'forcing' him into a reconciliation - he is throwing you a few crumbs in the form of anwering your calls.


i am truly sorry for your pain - but it looks to me like you have to take control over your life.


hugs...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2005
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 4:35pm

I have learned the hard way...

Once his heart is somewhere else, you cant get it back. He may be undecided but as long as the other person is involved there is nothing you can do. Sorry. Dont think about him for awhile, think about you. He is not thinking about how you feel. He does not respect or love you because if he did he would never treat you this way.